I've been with my girlfriend for a little over two years now. I love her to death, but it's so hard communicating with her. She is a very stubborn individual and instead of understanding she tends to snap and get an attitude if I confront her about anything.Anyway, our sex life...Sucks. It's not that I don't enjoy sex, or being intimate with her. I just am getting bored, and tired of what she's been doing.Our sex life consists of this:I start kissing her, she wraps her arms around me, I feel around until I get by her vagina, rub all over, she pulls her clothes off, I get on top. If my arms start to hurt, sometimes I have her flip over doggystyle or lay in spooning position, but she doesn't seem to get any enjoyment out of the latter two, which defeats the whole purpose of me sexing her up.I need with my troubled sex life. I can't seem to get her to try any new things. She doesn't like going down on me, doesn't put any effort into turning me on (she doesn't really touch me or my penis, doesn't talk dirty other than occasionally telling me to fuck her, and if I ask directly for these things she gets mad).Also, I don't know if it's at all possible I can give her an orgasm. I know I'm not big by any means, but I'm not tiny either. I've tried everything. Going slow is too slow, going fast seems to rev her up but after a few minutes she makes me stop because it hurts. I can't rub her clitoris or its hood because it's too sensitive and it feels like a tickle to her.I'm pretty much at a loss with her. I tried rough porn style sex, that's too much. Romantic intimate sex, too slow. A lot of the time I lose my erection because she isn't turning me on. I have to turn myself on by licking down her thighs or rubbing the head of my penis on her vaginal lips. I feel like I can't please her. I feel like I don't know what else to do because I hate doing missionary now. It's a chore. It's boring. My arms start to hurt after having to keep my weight on them for thirty minutes at a time. She doesn't seem to understand any of this and when I get tired from being on top too much she thinks I don't want it anymore and gets snotty with me. She thinks when I lose my erection it's because I'm losing interest when the truth is that I AM losing interest because she's not trying.I've asked her to be "Creative" in bed with me numerous times, and she just lays there and gets mad because I don't initiate things. I like to be dominant, but I want her to push me over in bed, grab my dick, suck it up and fuck me like no tomorrow. I've even told her this to her face and it still doesn't do anything but agitate her.HELP!?!?! Summary: I have a very uncooperative girlfriend whom I can't please because going too slow isn't enough, going too fast hurts too much, and no sex position seems to satisfy her aside from missionary.
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Girls and Guys, I need sex advice
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I'm pretty new to this, but I have a couple of things to mention.1) Your foreplay sounds pretty lame tbh. Maybe you need to get her in the mood a bit more. It sounds like from what you've said that you just want sex, and only sex, and that there's no real emotion in there. You need to heat her up. Tell her you love her, how badly you want her, and how good she makes you feel. She may feel uncomfortable telling you back, but don't think of that as a bad thing.2) This might get you into trouble, but maybe if she really wants you at some point, you can try some role reversal and act like you can't be bothered. Just lay there and make her do all the work. If she gets annoyed, then you have an opening to tell her how you feel about the way she acts. Might be an eye-opener for her...or she might just stab you in the eye. Your call on that one.My ex was a lot like your girlfriend. She would just lay there and expect me to do all the work. She didn't actually do anything. Would never even touch me. As such I could never get hard. We never had sex and we broke up eventually. Not saying that is the reason why, but it didn't do us any favours.One final tip. Don't focus on trying to give her an orgasm. It may be that she is naturally difficult, or simply cannot orgasm at all from sex. LOTS of girls are like this, so don't fret over it. Sex can still feel really good for them though, so instead just make sure that they're having a good time. With your focus diverted elsewhere, you may find that you loosen up a bit and in fact become a better lover because of it.
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Thanks for responding. In regards to your post, I don't want sex and only sex. As a matter of fact, I go through a pretty rigid foreplay routine with her. And it isn't my choice to make things stale like that in bed. She pretty much doesn't let me do anything, and if she does, she doesn't let me do them for long and acts like it wasn't good. I've tried numerous things. I used to go down on her all the time but all she ever does is pull my head up and tell me to fuck her. It's like missionary sex is the only enjoyable thing about our intimacy together.
I'm sure that at some times I'm a bit crabby or things haven't gone right throughout the day but she is consistently like this.
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Originally Posted By: Daimon_Linkpretty rigid foreplay routine"routine" is never a good word to be using when it comes to sex.Some girls are pretty self-conscious, especially about their nether-regions. My guess is that she's letting you go down on her as a privilege, and that she doesn't like you being down there for too long.Cunnilingus is one of the most intimate things you can do, as it's your face...the epicentre of the human senses, directly on her most private area. All that is going through her mind is: "does it look ok? does it smell ok? does it feel ok?" and about a million other paranoid questions that probably don't need to be asked. Do you reassure her? Tell her that you're enjoying it. Don't be afraid to tell her what you like about it.Even if they react negatively, you're giving them a sub-concious confidence boost.I could be off the mark, but it seems like you have a bit of an attitude about sex, and getting frustrated about it will only make it worse. Chill out. Relax. Don't focus on how annoyed you are that your sex is dull. Instead think how damned lucky you are to be having it in the first place! You'll miss it when it goes.
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I dont think its an attitude more than sounds like his chick is just not putting much effort into it at all. My last GF was exactly like yours man. I was doing all the work, she wouldn't go down on me. Heck it took alot just for her to jack me off. Thats pretty bad.We broke up eventually due to her having WAY to much drama in her life starting to affect me.Best I can do is tell you to talk it out with her. Unless you tried that already, in which case maybe you should just move on....?