check it out, I'm pretty much in love with this woman that I work with and for some fucked up reason she always leads me on (women huh?) claiming she broke up with her boyfriend. I've never been much of a snooper so I don't make much of an effort to invade her privacy, but for some reason I always randomly find out through everyone EXCEPT her that they are back together. I'm not sure what the best word to describe someone who does that as, all I can think of is manipulative? She always flirts with me and leads me on and she doesn't even have to try and it works its fucking annoying. Well, shes been wanting to go see a movie with me for a while now and I blew her off cause I found out she was back with the same dude shes broken up with like 500 times and I tried explaining to her that I'm a greedy bastard and if she isn't mine then I'm not going to be happy. she tell me that sometimes she thinks that if she were to take a chance at going out with me and then finding out that she only likes me as a friend things would change. I think that is bullshit cause we really aren't "friends" at least in my book we are more just really close coworkers. I tried getting the point across that I'm not mad that shes not with me (even though I slightly am) I'm just more angry that she never tells me the truth, its like shes playing both of us... but I'm stuck on the bench. Sure, they've been together for years and shes only taken interest in me in the past year or so... but if you break up with someone over every stupid thing then what compels a person to go back to that? the safety? she told me I'm her other half that she can't have from her boyfriend (what?) and I'm always there for her and crap... whatever. should I even waste my time in going and seeing a movie with her? Whats the point? Sure, I can probably hold her and shit.. doesn't make her mine though. shes still going back to the same dick wad and leaving me hanging. why would she keep doing this to me if she knows all I want is a relationship?
I just want honesty
It sounds like she just wants you as something on the side with no commitments, indefinitely. If you don't want that, try to forget about her and look elsewhere.
Sounds like a bunch of mind games. I wouldnt enjoy that myself. Me and my boyfriend broke up like 439473985935 times and I always had that guy that I would turn to... Now Im more Mature.. and I realize that I need to stop being so childish and havent broken up with him in ages. Move on. Shes just looking for someone to make her feel wanted when hes not there
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.