It has been said that....
"Sticks and stones may break your bones
But words will never hurt you."
Most of us know from experience - that THAT is NOT the TRUTH.
In fact - WORDS can hurt more than anything else. They have the power to harm us in a way that goes SO deep into who we are and how are feel about ourselves - that we live with that hurt for a lifetime.
When we are a kid - we lack the capacity to appreciate that what someone might say to us - or about us - does not always have anything to do with who WE are. Kids take practically everything personally. If a kid has been subjected to the abuse of his or her self esteem by words - they will always be especially sensitive to what people SAY about them. Even when they're all grown up. That 'hurt' is an open wound - and anything that even gets near it - causes us to flinch - to pull back - to recoil. Some of us deal with that hurt by trying to gain the favour of those who hurt us in the first place. Perhaps by being 'perfect'. Some of us try to protect that 'open wound' by gaining weight or by numbing ourselves to the pain by [mis]using alcohol, drugs or sex. [Or maybe all of those things] The number of ways we can try to protect ourselves form that hurt is limited only by our imagination.
But none of those ways work.
The only way to heal those wounds is to attack the very thing that caused them in the first place.
We must replace those negative words with positive words.
Now many of you [IF you're anything like ME] will have little faith in the power of the positive. Negative - to us - seems more 'real'. So much so that we're all but convinced that anything positive is a fantasy. If anyone says anything positive about YOU - it probably feels like a LIE. And that's perfectly understandable. But the part of you that has more faith in the negative is the 'kid' in you. It is that 'child within' that is convinced that all of those negative messages were the truth. Children have amazing stubborn egos - and it's often difficult to get them change their minds. But because YOU are the 'grown up' now - it is that 'child within' that YOU are going to have to convince. The 'grown up' you [Or the 'adult you'] will respond to positive talk as if it is silly. But I assure you - that child within you is starving to hear those wonderful, affirming, positive words. So for that child's sake [That child within YOU] let 'it' KNOW that 'it' is special and valuable and important. Let 'it' KNOW that 'it' is smart and has tremendous potentional to make 'its' dreams come true. And most importantly - keep reminding that 'child' that he or she is LOVED.
You already KNOW just how power negative words can be - does it not stand to reason that positive words might be just as powerful?!
I SAY YES!!
Not quite sure about that?!
The next time you are given the opportunity to say something encouraging and positive to a child [And those opportunities come up all the time - you just have look for them] try it - and see for yourself the effect it has on that child. That is the exact same effect positive words will have on YOUR little child. It will take some time for those changes to take effect - of course. Those 'open wounds' have been around for a long time now [Most likely] So be patient - but never give up. Love never quits. So love yourself enough to never give up on YOU.
And start the New Year off with vowing to love yourself - to love that 'child within'. And BE the source of love that your 'inner child' so desperately needs - and deserves.
GREAT BIG HUG
Craig's Christmas Message 2009
<span style="color: red">"It takes FAR MORE COURAGE to be KIND than it does to be CRUEL"</span> - CanadaCraig
Well said, Craig. I Hope you have a Merry Christmas hug
<span style="color: green">"Don't be a Dork! Wrap your Pork!" </span><br /><br />
How wonderful to see you again, Craig. It has been too long! And an excellent message. I hope you have a great Christmas!
nice to hear from ya again, ya mushy old goofball
<b>and there was light</b>