I Don't want to hurt his feelings

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I luv my boyfriend to bits but when we're just sleeping together, he keeps on reaching over to snuggle.It's really cute but i can't stay like that to sleep beacause i find it really uncomfortable, if i said that to him it just sounds like i don't want to be close to him but that's not it at all.How can i tell him without hurting his feelings?

Just tell him. The best thing you can do is communicate. Aslong as he knows its not because you dont want to be close and its because its uncomfortable, i'm sure if he's worth it he'll understand!Da Hawk

thanks he is quite insecure though so i think i might have to phrase this one carefully :S

Hm personaly if i were you i'd just say "I find it uncomfortable when you put your arm around me whilst we sleep" and then explain that its not because you dont want to be close, remind him that you do love him to bits and he'll understand and respect you more for saying it. Like i said communication is the key to a healthy relationship!Da Hawk

Thanks!! that really helped ^^thanks for the other post also x

Your welcome, so how'd it go? Was there anything to worry about?Da Hawk

actually no, he was absolutely fine about the whole thing ^^i was just worried because i don't want to upset him or knock his confidence at all, he has a low self esteem :S

Well aslong as it went ok :). But next time, just think, how would you like to be told what your telling him, use what you know about your boyfriend and I'm sure you'll be able to word it right. The main thing is to make sure you've worded it right and that you have covered all the conclusions he could jump to, and reasure him that its nothing to worry about.Da Hawk

thanks ^^ if there's anything i can help you with lemme know hehe i owe you one

Oh, er thanks :smile:

So Rob, i know we're already goin out but... will you go out with me? lmfao xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey isn't it the guy who's meant to ask the girl out Kelly? :P snuggle xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Lmao ehhhhhhh thats quoted from you ^^

I have the same problem. Except mine is dealt with. I just told him that I didnt like being touched when I slept.. not to feel upset about it that I like my space when i sleep.

I agree with what everybody else said, but if he likes to snuggle be respectful of his feelings. Make an effort to snuggle for a little bit before it's time for him to move back to his side of the bed.Personally I'm like you, why people want to touch when their sleeping is beyond me. I need my own space.