I've been with my girlfriend for just over three years. She's caring, intelligent, funny, very attractive and needless to say, I'm head over heels in love with her.So the other day I messed up. Well, I don't believe I messed up, but she does, and that's what's important. Since then she's barely said a word to me. Hasn't taken my calls, won't reply to my text messages, nothing. I don't even know if we're in a relationship still, and it's making me sick. Literally, my gut hasn't stopped aching for days.Then last night I sent message her saying we need to talk. I've always felt communication was one of the most important things in a relationship, so this immature neglect was really starting to piss me off. I get the reply; "Can't talk now, I'm drunk". I know she likes to go out and drink, but in the three years I've been with her I've seen her drunk maybe two times at the most. She only ever has a couple of pre-drinks then just dances the night away.So here I am the next day after another sleepless night wondering what the hell happened last night. Are we still together? Did she go out and meet someone? Or is this just some really cruel game to punish me?In all the years we've been together I've never see her act this way, and it scares me that someone I could invest so much emotion in is capable to treating me this way. She could really, really hurt me. She did last night, and I don't even know if anything even happened.
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Are women normally this cruel?
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I expect in a few days you'll find out more. Until then, it's hard to judge the situation.
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they can be cruel and they can do things that surprise you.
That said, give it a few days and try to talk to her again. But, be weary and on your guard until it all relaxes again.
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dont worry dude i have also been like you are, and only recently!had a arguement with my gf and she stormed out and went home, not heard from her for a couple of days and i really felt rubbish! stomach was in knots and couldnt eat!we are ok now but man it makes me realise i dont want that again!you heard anything?
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Oh, you have no idea how cruel we women can be. I think your girlfriend is just really pissed at you. She probably thinks going out and drinking is going to clear her head. I know, I have done the same thing before. Once she cools down she'll talk to you about it. Good luck with that.So, what did ya do to piss her off so bad?
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Everything is sorted, was as I suspected, miscommunication in general. Her excuse was she was pissed off at me, but because I can be quite manipulative and persuasive with my words, and that she's too easily forgiving she didn't want to talk to me till she had calmed down in her own time. Getting drunk was purely accidental too, just bad timing.As for what happened. A while back my friend and I organized to go car shopping, my girlfriend wasn't doing anything and decided to come along (I did warn her beforehand!). Anyway, hours later after visiting several different car yards we decide to stop by one last one. Of course, at this one my friend finds the perfect car (an Mitsubishi Evo VII for anyone curious). She's already frustrated at being neglected and bored all day. Anyway, another hour or two later after test drives, paperwork etc, we leave. We're over an hour and a half away from home, and guess what my mate and I spoke about the entire way? Cars, of course. We were excited, he'd just bought a $30,000 performance car. When we got back I told her Chris and I were going back to my place to do a bit of online research on this car, and have a couple of drinks to celebrate. Apparently the day before she'd asked me what we were doing that night, and I told her I'd spend it with her. I may have, I don't remember, but it wasn't like we had anything planned. It would've just been DVD and an early night.So after a day of cars, testosterone and neglect I then left her to spend the night with my friend too. I can understand why she was upset, but it's not everyday you buy an expensive car. Anyway, it's all sorted now, thanks for the responses guys.
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It's great when everything works out.