Okay, so I am now approximately 18.5 years of age...and for the first time in my life, a girl has caught my attention, utterly and completly. We met over the internet and became first, fast friends (To answer the most probable questions: Yes she is female and she just turned 15). After four days of communicating, I convinced her she should tell her parents about me (I highly dislike secrets, they forever lead to trouble). Anyway, this was a mistake on my part, the ended communication between us. I found out about that in an email she had sent from school the next day. In any event, her mother allowed us to continue communicating, four days later. Prehaps this was due to my contact with her mother those four days, I am uncertain. However, communication was resumed if we agreed to have monitored conversations that follow the premise of neither giving away her identity or location.In any event, I came to learn something in those four days, she was definitely something to me, I felt sick, weak, and very much like crying the entire time, only to have it replaced by...well it is more than happiness, but I know not a word to describe how I felt.Upon the renewal of communication, we both blurted the same information to eachother at about the same time. That night she was going to say something, but had to retire for the evening, so she said she'd tell me the next day. On the next day she made me guess what she wanted to say...I guessed correctly quoting her as saying: "I love you." At first, we were worried that the parents were going to remove us again, but nothing happened. Some time after, I was talking to the mother...and in some way or another, ended up telling her how I felt. See was okay with it, and we continued talking as usual. Much later, talking to the mother again, we spoke of marriage...it was odd, but not that uncomfortable. We agreed that we would both be stubborn, but she would give me a chance...(Don't worry, that is still way down the road, it just came up in a conversation)I was happy about that...because well, I'm odd. I will not make the young women choose me or family, if the entire family dislikes me...I will give up on my endeavor...well at least I was, until the young lady had read our conversation...that was heart wrenching, but I promised I would at least stay around. (For all of you think that is too early, my grandparents met and married in three days, a marriage which lasted until his death. That aside, the earliest I can actually see her is in three years time....that being said, I approximate she is slightly over 2000 miles away, since her mother told me of a nearby town.)Introduction out of the way, I apologize for the length, what I would like to know is what others feel as love. I ask because she is worried I am going to leave (I tell her how impossible that is, but she still worries). A few days ago, she finally told me a big worry is that, I, having never been in love, or even infatuated, before, do not know my feelings. I must say, see is quite preceptive.Now for a little information: first of all, I am very familiar with laws and know what I can and cannot say due to me no longer applying as a minor. As for a breif second, my knowledge into the forbidden department is non-existant anyway.As for me: I would seriously take a bullet for her, I love to just talk to her, learn about her, see and hear her on the webcam, just anything about her. I love to know what she thinks, does, eats, anything. I tell her as much quite liberally, for example; she is my little Goddess :)...It feels as though she completes me, like a missing half.As for her: She takes my compliments well, she says they make her want to scream (I thought that was bad, but she said otherwise.) In the same way, she has trouble being away from me, she says I am perfect (I tell her the same...but she always says "no I'm not" and rolls her eyes) and knows that she is in love. She has dated a few times before, but never been very serious, she says what she feels about me is totally different.Anyway, thoughts and opinions are welcome, be liberal, don't worry about hurt feelings, I can take it. Tell me what you think of the little relationship.My question again is: Love or infatuation?I thank you for any thoughts and/or opinions and again, allow my to apologize for the lengthy post.
Confused but happy (long)
Welcome to A2A, Tanathalis.I think it's far too soon to tell. Over the Net you only get a very partial picture of someone else, and your imagination tends to fill in the holes using a good deal of wish-fulfilment. I am not belittling the relationship; just saying that it won't be until you can really meet that you can really tell how you will get on together (remembering of course that there is no such thing as a perfect match).
It is too soon to tell if it's love or if you'll both get bord waiting and give up or get over it when it's no longer new and exciting.Having said that, I met my current partner online over 3 and a half years ago when I had just turned 17 and he was 25. Unfortunatly, we lived on the oposit side of the world to each other (Me in New Zealand, and him in the UK). I can not begin to tell you how very difficult and painful it is to keep such a relationship going for so long when you can't meet each other. Twice I tryed to break it off because it was just so hard to be away from someone you love so much for such a long time.After over 2 years of talking everyday online and on the phone I flew to the UK to meet and be with him for three months and it was just amazing. I had to fly home afterwards to go back to uni and it tore my heart out.I watched 5 months crawl by untill he could come and visit me for just a 3 and a half weeks. After that was up and he had to leave I was devistated.I've been waiting 6 months this time, for him to come back to me and tomorrow I'll be waiting at the airport to meet him. This time he's left his family behind and his job and made the move here to stay for good.I love this man more then I ever thought I could love anyone, I know what you mean about taking a bullet, because I would do anything for him. We have been through so much together, yet still apart, that as a couple I feel we have just grown together stronger. Once he's found a job we'll be moveing in together and he's planning to propose later this year.I guess what I'm saying, from experience, is that it could work, it may not, but it could and if you really love her she'll be worth waiting for, no matter how much waiting hurts.
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Originally Posted By: IneligibleWelcome to A2A, Tanathalis.I think it's far too soon to tell. Over the Net you only get a very partial picture of someone else, and your imagination tends to fill in the holes using a good deal of wish-fulfilment. I am not belittling the relationship; just saying that it won't be until you can really meet that you can really tell how you will get on together (remembering of course that there is no such thing as a perfect match). I would have to agree. Your imagination can completely spin this into the ultimate fantasy. Once you actually get together and start living together, it's a whole new world and you might hate each other. Just because your grandparents did it in three days doesn't mean anything. They didn't meet over the internet and also were living in different times.