Senior with an 8th grader

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You probably know where this is going by the title. I'm a senior, and I really like an 8th grader. And she's not just any 8th grade girl, she's my best friend's sister. So, let me just explain my feelings for her. It's not just physical attraction, I like her for her personality. I am attracted to her physically too, but she's actually very plain looking. I probably wouldn't be attracted to her at all physically if I weren't attracted to her personality. She's very intelligent and has a great sense of humor, which are the main things that really attract me to her.

And I'll say that I think (or maybe I just like to think) that she is very mature for her age, both mentally/emotionally and physically. And I think of myself of having the physical maturity of a sophmore or junior (many say I even look like a freshmen). So, I look young for my age, and she looks a bit older than the average 8th grader.

So, I want your opinion. She's been driving me crazy for the last few months. I can't stop thinking about her. I'm constantly wondering if she likes me, or thinking about any possible signs that she likes me. I think that I find signs that she likes me, but maybe I'm just imagining things and I'm not thinking logically. So are my feelings for her wrong? I've often thought about waiting until she's out of high school so that the age gap isn't as significant. But, if you think I should wait, how long do you think I should wait?

i don't know how to/if I/ or when I should act on my feelings. I've had crushes in the past, but nothing like this. so, do you think I'm a freak?

I don't think you should act upon it, mainly because anything physical is illegal, and completely out of the question (at least where I live). Try to find someone that's closer to your age perhaps. The age of consent where I live is 16. Grade 8 only means this girl is 13. That's probably a 4 year age difference. That's far too great for someone your age, especially since it's 4 years younger. Even if she's mature, it would be very difficult since you 2 are both in completely different stages in your lives. Most 8th graders aren't capable of a strong relationship at such a long age anyways. My advice would be to stay away from telling her anything, and try to move on. There are other women out there that are much closer to your age.

Your feelings are not wrong, its not your fault that she happens to be your type of girl. But i will say that its one of these situations that is really unfortunate for you; due to the fact that shes probably about 13 and your probably nearing 18.

The age difference is far too great. Anything physical could get you into ALOT of trouble, and though you can say "Well im not looking for anything physical" sooner or later it will turn into that. Not to mention her parents probably wouldnt approve, and a million other reasons.

Its best to look for someone closer to your age. Id say Sophmore+. Best of luck to yah.

Bad Idea to act on it!! Your best friend would probably FREAK too.

Very bad idea dude...Better change your gears now. It will ruin your friendship with your best friend for starter. You’ll be wanting to spend time with her instead of him. He will stop trusting you and will fear you’re telling his personal stuff to his sister. There is a line there that just can’t be crossed. That kind of age difference most likely doesn’t matter the older you get, but when you’re that young, it does. It may only be 3, 4, or 5 years difference between you guys but she has so much growing mentally, physically, emotionally, physiologically and morally to do, that it’s just not a good thing....Trust us here…. It’s not a good thing

I'll take all of your advice and not act on anything. Believe me, I wasn't in any way planning on acting on it any time soon, but I just felt that I'd get some opinions. By the way, the age difference is closer to three years than 4. I'm a young senior. I just turned 17 in November. She's going to turn 14 in February. Lately I've been trying to supress my feelings. Any time I think of her I try to push her out of my mind. I'm trying to just get over her. But if I ever do anythin I will wait until she's 18 at least.