So, I had sex for the first time a little bit ago. I lasted about 5 minutes (which isn't bad for the first time, I've heard, but it's definitely not great), although I'm not worried about that because the more I have sex the longer I should start to last (I hope!). At any rate, I wasn't nervous at all, I feel very comfortable with my girlfriend and we are very close. After I came the first time, I couldn't get another erection, no matter what she did. I don't know why, and it was SO embarrassing!!! Normally it's never a problem, like when she would give me head and I'd cum, then I'd do her for a while and I'd have no problem getting another erection. I don't know why I couldn't get one after our first time, and she thinks it's her fault, and I KNOW it's not...
(Sorry for the long post, I am just really upset)
Welcome to A2A, Jimbo56! That wasn't too long a post at all.
First sex is a big occasion, and afterwards there's a big relief that you achieved it. I think it was just that emotional relief that stopped you getting hard again. (Most guys wouldn't be able to get hard again immediately anyway, but evidently this was unusual for you.)
Just tell her it's not her fault, and guys' equipment has a mind of its own. It will soon get back to normal.
Thanks for you reply!
Yeah I think you're definitely right about being relieved and whatnot...
Normally, when I would get head and cum, and then I it'd take at least 5 minutes for me to get hard again, probably longer than that...
It's just that this time I couldn't get hard again at all! I think maybe it was because I kept thinking to myself (get hard, get hard, get hard!) and then when I wasn't getting hard I got nervous and whatever, is this feasible?
Very much so! It can be important not to try to get hard and just let it be.
Thanks for responding again Ineligible!
It's nice to get my hypothesis confirmed...
If anyone else has any other advice or anything, please feel free to respond!
Not many people online at the moment, but I'm sure there'll be replies later.
I've alway found an important thing with sex is to stay in the moment and not think to much. For myself I can't even fantasize that she's someone else. It would just turn into a distraction and inevitably lead to stray thoughts and I would loose the wood.
It's not something to worry about just explain to her that a dick not only has a mind of it's own that mind schizophrenic as well. Reassure her it's not her and things will be fine.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
Dude wait till she has an orgasm while your still inside her. You'll be yelling "Fuck!" like multiple times. You WILL cum.
On a side note, if you are using condoms and want something that works(a little too well)get Trojan Climax Control.
You'll be outlasting your woman by a long time.
Can the internet not spell "lose" right?
Thanks for the advice guys, you're all very helpful!