Hey everyone... here is my confession. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1.5 yrs and we hit a rough stadge. We went on a break (again, we have been on a couple). For some reason I was absolutely drawn to the idea of looking at his emails, i had never done so before depite knowing his details. I think it was karma cause I found an email from his ex girlfriend rejecting teh idea of their relaationship becoming more than just friends. It was the last straw for me, within 24 hrs of us being on break he was already looking for comfort elsewhere. We have broken up now, even when I told him that I dont think he really wants to be with me, he says he does but all I can think about is if she said "YES". Would that have changed it all. I think he was missing me and wanted some form of comfort but after 1.5 years! I expected more from him. So here is to karma, finding smething that I didn't want to
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Karma: Read boyfriends email
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If you where broke up whats the big deal? If you wanna be together than you have to stay together with someone. Saying we're not going to be together but you should still pine for me and not move on is just silly.If he wanted to break up with you then it's time to move on. You can feel hurt and all but don't waste time on him. If you broke up with him he was just moving on with his life.
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What's the big deal? Well, if they were going out for a year and a half and the minute they went on a break he tried to hook up with some ex-galpal, well, it's not right. This is so like the Ross & Rachel ''we were on a break'' thing. And they hadn't broken up yet, they were simply on a break...
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People are either together or their not. If their committed to making a relationship work they stick together and stay in the relationship if their not then they part ways and seek new paths.There are only two reasons to take a "break." One, I want to go find some strange but don't want to burn all my bridges. Or two, I want you to miss me and pine for me, then you'll see how great I am. Both reasons are immature and nothing more than game playing.
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But maybe they want to be together, taking some space might be the way to go forward for them. But then why would they be together? If they can't be together to be together. I see, I've just done a whole circle around myself. I get what you're saying now. You're right. You're really truly right. Gah, thanks for that. :grin:
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haha to everyones comments thank you. I wasnt very clear though. He was the one who wanted to go on the break. I wasn't feeling sorry for myself but was looking at the irony because this final email which I found put me over the edge. He was the one who contacted me to get together and now isnt leaving me alone even though I have clearly stated I dont want to be with him because regardless of the email I wasn't happy. My point is that he also denied ever contacting any girl lol and here is the funny part... he thinks I dont want to be with him because I have found someone else. Im hurt because he was 1. wanted to go on the break 2. contacted his ex AND got rejected by her 3. now wantes to be with me again (makes me feel big time 2nd choice) 4. begs me to come back to him and when I say no abuses me by stripping down my character and then comes back 5 min later and apologises and says I am making the biggest mistake of my life. He keeps calling me and he wont stop. I sound heartless and mean but this is what he does whenever he is angry at me. I'm not going to feel guilty though and I know he is never going to tell me about the email or if he has looked elsewhere because I know he lies to me a lot... a hell of a lot to control me. This is no exaggeration. I once found out that he lied to me about him trying to commit suicide. He said that after one of out fights he tried to end his life and failed. He used this against me for a long time until he accidently slipped one day that he had lied to keep me. I didnt leave him at the time cause I really thought he was unstable. Anyways.... Im trying to move on now.Thank you all for your comments.
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Like I said there are only two reasons for taking a "break," One, to go find some strange but not burn your bridges. Or two, I want you to miss me and pine for me. His reason was number one. Good for you, your better off without him. Nobody needs that kind of head game bullshit.
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What an idiot. Youre much better off without him!! Good choice!