Boy Trouble...

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I have a bit of a problem...About two months ago, maybe three or four, after the summer anyway, I can't exactly remember when, there was this guy (who I have known for years and years and years, since we were about seven). I was at a house party, and we started having this big huge conversation when he kissed me. Completely out of the blue, I hadn't (that I knew of) been sending ''signals'' or anything. I honestly thought it was just a nice sort of catching up conversation (we are in no classes together this year and rarely see each other). I immediately pulled away. Then he said something really sweet, which I coincidentally can't remember, and he kissed me again. i didn't pull away this time. Then, bla bla bla, I ended up telling him the next day that it was a mistake, and that it didn't really mean anything to me. Basically, that if I could go back in time, it would not have had happened. A few days after that, he text messaged me. It was all platonic, regular conversation, like whenever we texted. But then, he started bringing up what had happened again. To be perfectly honest, I just wanted to forget about it. He then kept messaging me, if I wanted to go out or anything. I was like, no no, I'm fine. Then I found out from my friend that he had apparently, for some peculiar reason, liked me for like the past two years. However, this was after I stopped replying to his messages. So, i hadn't really spoken with him since November. Now last night, i got a 'what's up' message from him. I replied, really nicely, we talked about school, then he started bringing up what happened. I was being sort of vague and told him I was going to sleep. Then , I got another message from him today, asking what I thought what happened. I said ''Well, to be honest, nothing much. It happened a long time ago''. Then, that was basically it, and here I am.I know I said before that I wanted, ya know, somebody. But not under these circumstances. I like this guy, but just as a friend. I don't feel that we have a lot in common. I mean, he's all into sport and that's pretty much it. He makes me smile, but he doesn't make me laugh. Anyway, I feel really guilty about all of this, and i don't really know where to go from here. My girlfriends basically told me to humour him for a while, but I think that's absolutely silly. I'm not going to grow to like him, and it would be worse in the long run.Any advice would be very welcome!

I suggest that you tell him, directly, that you like him as a friend but you see no chance of anything more. He should have worked that out already, but a guy in love tries hard to give events a more favourable interpretation, so you have to be absolutely definite.Don't be surprised if you have to cut off contact. He may find the 'this far, but no further' situation intolerable, or inconceivable.

Thanks for the reply.First of all, I just re-read my post and I realised that the 'bla bla bla' part could be taken the wrong way, it didn't occur to me yesterday. It was just a kiss!Well, I talked to him today. I thought it would be better to do it face to face. I saw him at lunch and went up to him when he got up to leave. He said he'd walk me to my next class and in the process of doing that, I said the whole 'friends thing' again. He told me that we couldn't really be friends at all. Which is sort of sad. I feel so awful for all of this, but I guess there's not a lot I can do now.

No, you did the right thing.

You're right. Definetly did the best thing.

Good call on doing it in person too

Thanks guys.