Every time I'm out, and I meet a group of guys while I'm hanging out with my girl friend, I get set up with guy #1 in each group of guys first. But after a while, I'm more interested in guy #2, aka his friend. What sucks is, that I will have already done stuff with guy #1 since we have been hanging out for a bit.Does anyone else have this problem where they think they want this one guy first, but in the end, you want his friend? I don't get myself, to be honest. It's happened twice already with two different groups of guys when I'm hanging out with a whole bunch of guys and me just being the main girl.And just a few days ago, I think I want this guy first, he's even less of a dork than his friend, but in the endI just have a feeling I'll wind up wanting his friend anyway, ugh.What's the deal with me? If you were a psychiatrist, what would you tell me? LOL
I think this is a problem.
Is it forbidden fruit? The grass on the other side of the fence? Distance lending enchantment to the view?Or perhaps a fear of commitment?
It's possible it may have to do with mostly forbidden, lol. I think that might be it for the most part.Though, I also do have a fear of commitment. I don't want to experience the feeling of being cheated on, or cheat on somebody, but I am not sure about this.Another question I have about this guy...Also with this guy, it seemed like we hit it off really well the first night we hung out together so I figured I could text him a last happy birthday 15 minutes before it ended the next day. He never responded to me.And then, I figured he might have been passed out or something, so then I decided the next morning, I asked him in a text that he should come visit me at work to get a sandwich, lol. He eats where I work all the time, but at a different location so I told him to see me at my work instead.I figured I could say that seeing that he was really into me that other night, and I figured he would also respond because of that.But alas, a day later, he's been ignoring me, just after a day that I met him. It's not that I was clingy, I figure he'd answer since he was all like "I really really like you, blah blah blah" to me.And I don't think he was saying words just to get in my pants, because he's the first guy I've ever hung out with who didn't try to sleep with me on the first night and I loved that.We only got to 2nd base, and that was it. When it seemed like we were about to do it, he said that we should just go to sleep and I was fine with that and glad that he didn't bring up doing it. I thought that to me showed, that he really might want to get to know me.It disappoints me that he is ignoring me already after he told me he liked me without trying to use that to get in my pants.What should I do if he tries to contact me a week later? I'm just sick of being ignored. I thought he said he thinks he likes me...but he has a funny ass way of showing it by ignoring me when I wanna try and talk to him.I'm not attached, or anything seeing as I just met him. I just don't know what to do if he tries to contact me again since he ignored both of my messages.