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and that is called control and guilt is another fucking tool of control. just end it, walk away, you told him if he doesnt know then fuck him go find new friends, a new life, when he calls or comes around, tell him " I told you, I broke up with you, its over, leave me alone."
If he persists in attempts to control, call the cops...stalking,harassment....

Originally Posted By: SayaHe doesnt stop the player when I tell him to stop it.......If I leave the room, the music stops.........enter the room, music starts again. That demonstrates better than anything a complete lack of care total exertion of manipulation. You deserve better than that.

I am sorta afraid of him in a way. Its a creepy feeling but I dont know if its my imagination or its real.

If your afraid of him it's time to get away from him. Let people know your scared. Tell your family, let them help, let them offer some feeling of safety if they or anybody else is willing. The longer your with him the worse it's gonna get.

I had broken up with him before......2yrs break......my mom wanted me get back with him and she did everything to get me to say yes. Mom aint gonna help me much but I have told my dad about it and he said to let go of him ASAP.

fear is just another way to control.if your in the states you can take that fear and any threats or past incidents and get a restraining order. Its jsut a piece of paper int eh end, but its a start.

Is there any chance mom will sing a different tune if she knows your afraid of him? What would your dad think of him if he knows this guy is frightening his little girl?Kick his ass out, you can do better.

I live in different country, no restraining orders available here but I am leaving for another country very soon......wont be back for months.......he cant follow me there My dad doesnt want him anywhere near me.

Well there ya go, the perfect opportunity.

The trip was planned by my dad, so I can relax for a while. But upon my return, I know I will find him standing on the porch. its annoying the hell outta me

Just be sure that you break all contact. Don't say I don't want you and then talk to him even if it's about other shit. Make it a complete break.

yeah..........I am gonna make it a complete break. Its surprising.........I had a fogginess surrounding my brain and couldnt think straight for years though being under therapy off and on........this time the doc put me on a different drug and it has helped me a lot........I can think clearly for the first time in years, seems like I have woken up from a long dream-like state.

He is calling almost every day..........I am not answering his calls but my mom is..........now she is getting pissed off with his behavior and lies.I havent told him yet that we are through.........just taking some time off before I do it.

Break it off as fast and clean as possible. Let your family help give you the support and comfort you need.

My parents will support me on this. I am just waiting for my tickets (another few weeks) so I can say goodbye to him and take-off ASAP without giving him a chance to ask me anything or make excuses or eat my brains out.

or turn into a vampire...

lol..........:grin: maybe

Update.........I spoke to him for 25 mins on phone.........it was pleasant enough, I told him about the problems between us and also told him that my parents are not happy with him..........he plans to come over so we can have a serious talk and decide the whole thing once and for all.And my parents hearing about that I am gonna breakup with him have turned up with a damn marriage proposal from another guy (a dentist) who is hot and sexy to look at but I am not interested in him. Thats just one out of a dozen proposals they got for me..........How can I get hooked up with someone else right when I am breaking up with a guy whom I have loved and been with all my life? I need time to get it off my system dont I?My life is turning out to be hell of a mess

be single when u go see your dad!!don't let your bf in your house.. or be alone with him. He may do something stupid... again.don't let him talk you into staying either.

He wants me stay