What he wants doesn't matter. All you need to worry about is the path you think will lead you to happiness.
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Honey and money
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So?! Are you gonna let him keep treating you like shit.. and BITING YOU when he doesnt get his own way? You need OUT. I thought u werent going to talk to him until after u left.I dont think your relationship can be fixed. Not after everything uve told me.
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Originally Posted By: SayaHe wants me stay I agree with what everyone else has said. Did you honestly expect him to say "actually you know what, I don't want you anymore"?Surely you knew he wanted you to stay with him anyway else this would have been over a while ago? So where is the new information?You stick to the original plan. Get rid of him. He is NOT good for you, and you feel miserable at the thought of staying with him. That is a good enough sign that it's not meant to be. So stay strong, and get rid of him, because you need to start feeling happy with yourself, and not have to worry about him all the time.
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Yep, I am trying as hard as possible not to break down (I am very emotional these days)........but I am not gonna change my mind about this.
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I can only echo the advice others have already given you.You made a decision, there is no need to talk to him, its over, so let it be over. have your dad come over (dad? a trusted friend, the police if need be) and he can get any of his shit from your house. Tell him nothing is open to discussion its over and finished and you are unwilling to talk about it, there has been 15 years for talking, it did not work then it wont work now.Cut it off clean, get the hell out of town, and go have a good time on your trip.
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What Chance said.Make the break clean, quick and surgical epically if you think there's a chance you may backslide. Don't get mired down in discussion and reason, that's where he wants you, just move on.
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I am finding it difficult to get him out of my head still love him too much.......ok I guess I am a fool ........but I am giving him another chance (few weeks).........I wanna see if he can make the changes he promised me when he met me........if he cant then I may as well say goodbye forever.I am making a change in my decision cos my heart is hurting too much at the thought of leaving him.....I am getting too depressed and I often get suicidal if it hurts too much And I dont wanna die yet and it seems the fogginess is back on (maybe its happens due to depression)
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Are you sure it hurts you if you leave him?Are you sure he's not brainwashing you? Are you letting things he says take control of you?How many times have you done this now? He basically owns you. You do not seem to have any self-respect if you're gonna keep letting him do this to you. It's not gonna help making you feel any better.
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Personally I don't think it's the wise thing to do but it's your decision to make and I respect that.
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Sadbuttrue--You are right........right about me not having self-respect cos I think I lost that a long time ago (due to religious/cultural upbringing shit.....that gets programmed inside a kid's brain)Yes it hurts me when I leave him. I dont know if he is brainwashing me or not. I do love him a lot. He does give me my space and some freedom which I really need. I have broken up with him twice in 15yrs (once when we were still in school 1998...1yr+3months and again in 2004....2yr+2months)........for a total of 3 yrs and 5months--I had cut him off completely. Though I feel awkward I often agree to what he says cos the reason is my parents.I am really pissed cos my parents have been forcing me a lot to get married (they think they are getting too old and want to see me happy with a husband and kids before they die they are 62 and 51 yrs old) If I stay with this guy my parents wont bother me much.....if I am not with him......hell will break loose on me......there will be more than a dozen pics of men and bio-data lying on my table and some guys and their families get invited over for dinner!!!Next thing they will choose some guy and I will have to marry him!!! I got pics and details of 6 guys lying on my table right now and others are with my mom just cos I said I wanna break up with my bf.....one family already came for dinner......my mom and dad acted like they cared and all nice and understanding just to get me to agree to their ******shit.I think I will stick with my bf for a while.......yep he is an ass, doesnt treat me well but I can talk him into changing himself a bit and ask him not to be an ass.....thats a much better choice than getting married to a total stranger and having sex with him and getting treated badly cos I had a couple of boyfriends before marriage (which is forbidden), not a virgin and cos I am an atheist (its a death sentence in itself).My bf did apologize for his mistakes after I got really angry and completely pissed.......he knows it very well that he isnt treating me as he should.Scotty......I think you will understand it much better cos you know where I live life is tough for me.I often wish I was brain dead and didnt feel or sense anything at all
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Well Im glad you're not brain dead.. then we wouldnt have our good talks!
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I am glad I not brain dead too :grin:.......I dont know what I would do in my free time if I didnt have you to chat with.....my dearest friend........ :wink:
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I find this all a bit sad. Jumping back into the relationship you so obviously need to be out of... This thread is the only reason I even bothered to put down my sander and paint brush and log in to see how ya was doing today.Let me TELL you something, you cna not change anyone, I tried for 10 fucking years and all i did was waste ten years on a miserable twat. I feel bad for you giving up your fist glimmer of self respect and awareness to go back to someone that has shit on you for 15 years.
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Grvtykllr.....I wouldnt remember that one easily....you got a nickname or something I can use/remember easily?....... That was the last chance I gave him ........if he cant use it to make some changes then I wont have any love or respect for him. Its been only a week and I am already having trouble with him again. I dont think I will hang on to this guy any longer. There is something I need to find out before I kick him out of my life........I swear I am gonna kick him in his balls and punch his face (several times) if my doubts turned out to be true. He has kept his relationship with me a secret from his parents/family and has been playing a few 'games' behind my back as well. I wont let him walk away easily.
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GRVTYKLLR= Gravity Killer=I have a sick fondness for climbing rock and ice However, most people call me Chance.
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Originally Posted By: GrvtykllrI have a sick fondness for climbing rock and ice I love trekking by the way My most favorite thing........jumping off a cliff into the sea/ocean.Chance!.........got it
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My favorite thing is fucking!but my climbing, hiking, camping,caving shit all comes in a close second
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Its sad but I aint into that yet Never had sex with my bf in all the years I was with him.
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I am out of the relationship.........and I am feeling very numb. I got a severe headache and few more symptoms that lasted more than 4 days.........I think I may have a problem in my brain.Guys I really needed your support at this time cos I am very heart broken but I dont think I can come online or post anything for a while I have been asked to take complete rest.
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We're here for ya. Things will get better. PM me if you need to.