Am I normal?

---

iam really scared of getting married. not because of the wife, or anything like that. but becoz of sex.
ive read some places on the internet that this is normal, and i have sinned to find this out and know about it (masturbated) but whenever i ejaculate my penis starts to feel irritated for a long time after, its been happening for 4 years. like a tickling feeling in the urethra that wont go away. it prevents me from sleeping at night, which is the main problem. but when i do go to sleep, but the time i wake up its okay which makes me believe when i havent been using it, the pain goes away?

does anyone know anything about this? doctors have been no help and i want to live a normal life with a wife and kids!

is it ph levels?
something i eat/drink?
allergies?
urethra inflamed?

anyone else have this problem? am i normal? is there a fix at all?

Welcome to A2A.First of all you shouldnt be scared, what you need is self confidence..........I dont think you have any allergies but I cant say anything about the Ph levels or urethra problem (cos the info you have provided aint much to determine that--sorry )I dont think you are only one feeling this way..........there many men and women who have similar problems. Try to be gentle and use some lube or something to reduce friction while masturbating cos it will not irritate you much later.During sex/masturbating the blood flow to genital parts increases and when you are done it decreases, it causes the tingling sensations, its kind of normal. Some are more sensitive than others, it differs from individual to individual.

sorry. i should add iam planning on getting married in the next year, i hope! to a woman i love more than anything.the thing that debunks the 'be gentle' and 'use lube' is that its come of wet dreams too. when i havent even touched my penis. i know its my sperm!

How do you know you havent touched your penis when you were dreaming/sleeping? I am saying this cos I have seen a guy or two (dont ask me how I saw them) masturbating themselves (by touching) when they were fast asleep.If you had an allergy, Ph imbalance or something else.......you would have more symptoms than just irritation..........like rashes, swelling etc that would last longer than what you indicated. As far as urethral inflammation is concerned you would have problems during peeing as well.......like feeling pain, burning sensations, finding it difficult to pee or not able to pee at all.I can only say that you are not feeling comfortable with your self during masturbating and worrying too much.

Explain the irritation please.Also it is possible to just have a wet dream I have them occasionally and i know i dont touch myself simply because I'm a big guy and the way i sleep is nearly impossible to yank it off :P

Guess guys can........the ones I observed didnt..........well thanks for letting me know.......I will keep that in mind.

i know i don't touch myself when i have a wet dream. aaanyway the irritation is whenever semen passes through. it will last until I wake up the next morning regardless of when i masturbate or if i awake from a wet dream. it feels almost like an orgasmic tingling in the upper end of my urethra!very annoying

I did a lot of searching and found that it could actually be

1-a valve problem (the one that determines whether semen or urine should pass through)
2-not drinking enough fluids
3-due to consumption of alcohol, sugar, caffeine, nicotine prior to sexual activity......which often cause urethral irritation.

It doesnt seem to be an STD or any disease or a problem with prostate or urethra. Doctors are not able to understand whats wrong either :frowning:

Try to take some anti inflammatory drug it when you feel irritation or tingling etc.
Peeing right after you masturbate or having sex seems to clear the irritation.
Avoiding alcohol, sugar (cakes/cookies), cigarettes and coffee few hours prior to sexual activity also seems to help some men.

Try any of these tips and see which works for you. Hope this helps you.

There are many men out there having similar problem and no one has found a solution to it except the tips above.

Quote:1-a valve problem (the one that determines whether semen or urine should pass through)can this be corrected? Quote:2-not drinking enough fluidsi drink bottles and bottles of water daily. it is not this. Quote:3-due to consumption of alcohol, sugar, caffeine, nicotine prior to sexual activity......which often cause urethral irritation.i do not smoke, do not drink, do not drink caffeine or eat a lot of sugar. Quote:It doesnt seem to be an STD or any disease or a problem with prostate or urethra. Doctors are not able to understand whats wrong either and this makes me wonder how i go on living.  Quote:Try to take some anti inflammatory drug it when you feel irritation or tingling etc. i will Quote:Peeing right after you masturbate or having sex seems to clear the irritation. i wish!!! i do this!!  Quote:There are many men out there having similar problem and no one has found a solution to it except the tips above. so im doomed to sexless life of discomfort.i hate sex and masturbation. i dont even masturbate for pleasure anymore. its purely to see if i can learn to manage this 'disorder' and for release.why me? why can't i be like every other guy?

The valve problem cant be corrected cos there hasnt been any research on this yet :frowning:

All I can recommend is eat healthy, exercise a bit cos this may also help........(I am still doing a search on this topic, I will update if I find something that works)

So you are not doomed or anything just relax, dont let go of hope yet.

Get married or find girlfriend and enjoy your life cos you are normal. Sex also seems to help few men.

You shouldnt be thinking negatively cos of a small problem.......for once think of other men and women who have worse problems and still living their life to their fullest--you are a lot better than they are health-wise so why loose hope? You need self-confidence and try to be comfortable with sexuality.

Look on the positive side and keep your spirits up........ :smile:

I suffer from severe pain when I masturbate or when I am turned on, sometimes I cant walk cos of the pain (there is no treatment for that either) but I have never hated sex cos of that and I havent planned to live my life alone. I never compare my life with how others live cos its depressing and it has a negative effect.........I know I am different, I love who I am and I enjoy my life like I should. Life is too short and I dont have time to sit and cry about my problems :wink:

Originally Posted By: issomethingwrong it feels almost like an orgasmic tingling in the upper end of my urethra!very annoying I don't want to sound patronising or anything - but how are you so sure that there's something wrong with you?It sounds to me like you don't really orgasm very often as you seem to think it's evil or something like that...I know that if I don't have one for a long time, the feelings that I get can linger for quite some time after I actually have the orgasm. Are you sure the tingling isn't actually just residual effects from the orgasm?If it was a burning sensation I may be more inclined to believe that you have some sort of UTI or something, but if it's tingling I would personally expect it to be normal.

Originally Posted By: sadbuttrueyou seem to think it's evil or something like that.... I really dont understand why people would think of something thats intimate and enjoyable to be a sin. I also think he is not doing it enough to get used to the feeling.

If in doubt see a doctor. Remember, this is not the objective truth (:Anothermember,

Amen!

He already said doctors have been no help.

Christianity does that to you. There's plenty of other things in that big book that don't make sense I don't understand why people take the thing literally if at all.

.... Because they're Christians or followers of the Great Thor. ...And that's just what they do!!

Pee after you ejaculate to clear anything that's still inside there. Does it burn to pee? Does the irritation go away after you pee?