I've already posted about this before but I dealt with it for a while. In a sentence; girlfriend at uni who I see once every 2-3 weeks keeps getting hit on.I keep trying to deal with it in the "she's going out with me, it doesn't matter because she wont do anything about it" way, but it still gets to me.Like tonight she said some guy in one of her classes who she'd talked to for an hour or so started hugging her, and his hand "slipped" and he didnt move it.I dont know, I'm a wrathful person and I'm not sure why, and this really pisses me off. I dont want it to build up and make me rant at her, because then I'm the bad guy, but I really don't know how to get rid of this "under the skin" feeling. I'm the least violent person you can think of, but I feel like hitting something right now.Any help?
Getting under my skin again
If there's anyone you should be ranting at it's that guy, not her.
Maybe u should tell her she shouldn't be getting in situations like this.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
I wouldn't rant at her willingly, I'm just worried if this keeps getting to me I'll end up doing it. Obviously this guy is the one I'm mad at, but I don't go to her Uni and I'll probably never meet him. Even if I did, surely ranting at him would just make her think I'm a controlling git.Same goes for telling her not to get into these kinds of situations. How can I get her to do that when I'll just come across controlling? I think she's already bothered that she can't seem to get any guy friends because they all just hit on her and then go completely cold on her when she mentions me.I don't know if there is a solution, I just need a way of venting this annoyance and frustration.
Originally Posted By: stan_apollo
I don't know if there is a solution, I just need a way of venting this annoyance and frustration.
Ask her the name of the guy...........write it on a piece of paper, draw a face to go with that........stick it to a pillow or punching bag and punch or kick the damn thing until you feel you punched or kicked 'him' enough........you can curse as much as want when you are at it.......its childish but its the best way to let out your anger, annoyance and frustration..........and it does help :smile:
I often do it when I am angry or frustrated and dont wanna hurt anyone.
Il faut plus d'amour dans le monde.
Originally Posted By: StephieJMaybe u should tell her she shouldn't be getting in situations like this. This. Oh he didn't move his hand? How unfortunate.. Now why exactly didn't she move it for him??Secondly, she's trying to make you jealous. Lots of people do this. It may be driving you up the wall but she loves that because she knows your attention is centered on her. We all love being adored.Tell her to start doing something about it. She doesn't have to put herself in those situations.