So recently, me and my first girlfriend broke up. We were having lots of troubles it seemed and I was not feeling into the relationship anymore. Anything she did that would bother me I'd just hold inside and hold it against her later. Which definitely wasn't the right thing to do, I realize that now. But we broke up over the weekend, but we're going to try and keep talking and be friends. Then school came along, and I realized how much I missed her, I guess I got bored and took things for granted. I really want to be back with her and she does too, but, I'm really scared I'll start feeling the same and just hurt her and me again. So I'm trying to wait and make sure the feeling stays. But at the same time I'm still confused, does anyone have any guidance?
Breakup, but want to get back together?
I think if nothing has changed, then the outcome is also unlikely to change. So if you want a different outcome, you'll need to do things differently.
I think, too, that relationships need working on - that you can't just rely on feelings.
my girlfriend and I just went through the same thing. she broke up with me last Thursday. We talked alot about why and what happened and how she was feeling. and what she wanted me to do differently and also what i wanted her to do differently. we both agreed and said we will try our hardest to fulfill eachothers wishes. we got back together. and its going fine again.
you just have to talk frankly without any anger or offense just hear eachother out and try your damndest to go through with it. talk to your girl and ask her things and let her help you decide. it doesnt always have to be just your problem and vise verca
From past experience, it hasn't worked. Not only is that my personal experience, but the experience of those around me too. Things might appear fine for awhile, but inevitably, if you are worried you're going to feel the same way eventually, then it's likely the feelings, or lack of them, are still within you and will inevitably rise again.
However, my pessimistic opinion being said, haha, every relationship is different and given the time and effort from both of you, I'm sure it has the ability to blossom. It just takes a lot of work and dedication. And, even if it ends badly, sometimes it doesn't hurt to give things a second chance. It could rest on your mind and heart otherwise.