If you have read my previous posts about my guy friend, then you need an update on that situation. He asked me out mid february, I accepted and we're now boyfriend / girlfriend. He let me go on his facebook the other night, and I was curious (like most people) to read his messages. There are 2 girls that constantly message him. One om he would hangout with all the time, the other he would have very sexual conversations with. this worries me. Even if it was before we dated. He told me that I was the only girl he liked, and was interested in. I later read he was saying the same thing to these other two girls. Hes telling me stories that people have "made up" about him and some other chick. We have .. or rather had sex once or twice a week. We havent had sex in a week and a half, which kind of worries me. He is usually very cuddly and close to me (even before we dated), he hasnt been in a few weeks.His condoms are magically vanishing. I asked him about that the other day and he said first that his parents probably took them, then about a minute later said that he gave them to his neighbor (which for a fact I know they very much dislike each other).He used to say he loved me all the time. Now he only says it when I do, and thats only because I have to re-assure myself that he does somehow.He would call me on days we didn't hangout, now he never does.There are subtle changes in his appearance as well. Hes working out more, hes already pretty damn fit to begin with. He does his hair differently, smells different, dresses different.all these things make me worry and make me paranoid that hes cheating on me.Just some advice or something would be nice, or more signs to check for if he IS cheating on me. Every little bit helps. I just want to be more sure if this before I actually confront him about it.
Paranoid? Or is he cheating?!
Everything you have suggested points to him cheating. Quite frankly I'm surprised you haven't done something about this already.He's sending sexual messages to other girls?! Why are you even still with him?! That's grounds for leaving him as it is, let alone all of the other crap.
He was sending the messages to the girls for months up till about a week before he asked me out.Which still got me pretty damn upset considering I poured my heart out to him in a message (I was there when he read it) about a month before he asked me out. He didnt say anything about the message, other then aweh thats cute. Which didnt help my situation at all.He told me (a few months/weeks before we started going out) that he would be extremely pissed off if I touched another guy. Yet, he was sending these messages, and no doubt fooling around with these other two girls.In all honesty, hes a nice guy. But also a very compulsive liar. I can catch his bluff though, he doesn't realize it (I used to be a bigger compulsive liar then he is). So if I get any more info on whether or not he could be possibly cheating, after I confront him about it I will be able to tell pretty quickly if hes lying or telling the truth.
All in all, it doesn't sound good but sometimes things just sound that way.
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It's quite simple. Do a case study. Just break up with him. Tell him that its not working out and that you need to spend some time by yourself. Then see how he reacts. What you have said, suggest that he is using you to "fall" back on and things that he can get better. He is probably pursuing girls that he "thinks" is better, and thus the reason for the outer appearance change. And if he is having sex with other girls, maybe he doesnt necessarly "love" them, but he's just testing the water to see if they're good. You need to be VERY careful with this, girl..
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