awhile back I posted a topic about how i find other girls really attractive. I asked if I should bring it up to my girlfriend and it was pretty much a no, a sort of "your young and want to sow your seeds" which i was inclined to believe because the idea just seemed wrong and i was feeling a lot of guilt about it. recently my friend, the girl that i was thinking about when i posted the previous topic, started up a conversation saying that she felt like she had to kill part of herself to stay "faithful" in her relationship, that she loved her boyfriend but her relationship was going downhill because she felt attracted to certain people at the same time and felt like she wasn't being herself, she felt really horrible and alone about it. when i heard her say all this it was like "holy shit she's reading my mind" i asked her to go on a walk with me.on that walk we pretty much "came out" to each other about how we felt about the whole thing, i told her she wasn't alone and it came up that we both wanted to be in a relationship with each other as well as our significant other, and she also wanted to be with MY SO! we have all been friends for over three years. I had no real idea how much this had been holding me down until i got it off my chest, i felt so freaking euphoric. we walked and talked for about three hours and decided that our current relationships were not going to work unless we outed ourselves because of how crappy it felt to not be who we are.I came to the conclusion that there is very little difference in wishing you could be with someone else at the same time, and actually doing it except for the fact that trying to deny it just hurts yourself and your relationship. she suspected that her boyfriend would not understand and she was right... he pretty much stopped showing her any affection. this scared me but when i talked to my girlfriend she let out the biggest sigh of relief... she has felt the same way for the entire time as well and has agonized over it for the last three years. how crazy is that? now we are just starting our new relationship, we are taking things slowly because we want it to work so badly. this is really amazing! my relationship with the girlfriend i had for so long was suddenly like new without this weight upon both our shoulders and it feels so good to finally be able to express the feelings i have for this other person without guilt.so, can any one else relate? have you ever felt in love with more than one person at a time? how did you deal with it?
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Three way relationship
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Originally Posted By: largedumbjakewhen i talked to my girlfriend she let out the biggest sigh of relief... she has felt the same way for the entire time as well and has agonized over it for the last three years. how crazy is that? What do you mean she has felt the same way?She wanted you to be with other women?or that she wanted to be with other men?Either way I don't see your new arrangement lasting too long, as I strongly expect jealousy to become a part of this arrangement. Your existing girlfriend will get upset at how much time you spend with your new one. Similarly, your new girlfriend's existing boyfriend will get annoyed at how much time she spends with you.I'd like to see how this pans out. It's quite interesting!
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No, she likes the same girl as me and the girl we both like wants to be with both of us... That's what's crazy... The boyfriend kinda went crazy which is what she expected...
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Originally Posted By: sadbuttrue
Originally Posted By: largedumbjake
when i talked to my girlfriend she let out the biggest sigh of relief... she has felt the same way for the entire time as well and has agonized over it for the last three years. how crazy is that?
What do you mean she has felt the same way?
She wanted you to be with other women?
or that she wanted to be with other men?Either way I don't see your new arrangement lasting too long, as I strongly expect jealousy to become a part of this arrangement. Your existing girlfriend will get upset at how much time you spend with your new one. Similarly, your new girlfriend's existing boyfriend will get annoyed at how much time she spends with you.
I'd like to see how this pans out. It's quite interesting!**check out the title :wink: **
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Originally Posted By: anondudecheck out the title yeah, but 3 way would be:Current GF->HimWhereas the way it actually is could not be represented quite as simply :PIt's almost:
Him> -
hmmm i'm confused?3 way relationship, threesome?I dont get it. If thats what it is then you are a vvvv lucky person to have 2 girls who are so understanding!I definately wouldnt be