hi everyone,currently i am in a long-term relationship. for the first while, everything was awesome, but then things started to not work out, and i'm sure that happens often in all relationships. i mean, everything can't be perfect all the time, right? you get into a stage of comfort and it's hard to pick things back up again. anyway, i am having trouble deciding whether or not to stay with my boyfriend. i know what i need to do, but it's not what i want to do. lately, he hasn't been showing me that he cares and loves me (i know, i bet all the guys will say something like, why do all the girls always think like that?!), but it's true. i find that in certain situations, my boyfriend isn't being a good boyfriend at all. i wish he would be more supportive and proud of me, and other things.before you ask or say anything to do with communication, yes, i have talked to him about this. he does the usual, feeds me bull shit that i believe and i continue to let him do this to me and let him make me feel this way. i know, i've let him push the envelope too far, and now i'm stuck.i feel that our relationhship has potential to go further, if only he would realize what he is doing. then again, it's not right of me to want to change him - if that is the way he is, i should move on and forget about it, right?thanks
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sounds like you're a smart girl and you know whats going on
you say you talk to your bf about it but at the end you dont have a solution?
tell him you need to find one because your relationship is worth it
if he just feeds you bullcrap (as you put it) then he isnt being a nice bf.. =\\
dont know if im much help
If I were you, I'd tell your BF that you're into PSA (Personal Show of Affection), not only will it deepen your physical and emotional relationship, but it will also take it to a new level. Trust me, this works, if it doesn't, sue me......ok don't, but you get the picture....
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Let me guess....you probably just talk to you a little and then he says his bullcrap and you drop it right? Well, let me give you some advice...as long as he knows what it take to shut you up...things aren't ever gonna change. I've realized that I have to be forceful and sometimes down right rude to get what I want. Sometimes it's alright to be selfish. Tell your boyfriend how immature he is and how if he doesn't grow up then you two won't last another year. Be honest with him....it will be a reality check for him. And don't back down becasue he starts shootin' bull at you. Don't drop it until you are satisfied. It may be risky for the relationship but if you ever want it to be more than what it is now you have to do this. My boyfriend of two years has done a total turn around for me because I've put my foot down on how my life is gonna be. We're getting married in December and I couldn't be any happier with him. Our first year was a little rocky but when I finally stopped apologizing for everything and stood up for myself and told him how it was he changed.I hope this helped you!!
okay... so it's about a month or two later and i am still in the same relationship. it is hard sometimes to distinguish whether or not the shit i go through is worth it? i just got off the phone with my boyfriend and i feel that he doesn't care. i mean, sometimes he shows that he does, but for the past couple of days, he hasn't been and i get really frustrated. and when i get frustrated, i really don't feel like communicating with him, and he pretty much does the same, which definitely doesn't help the relationship.sometimes i feel that it is best that we break up, even though i have invested almost two years into this relationship. it is difficult to think that after two years, it would be no more - like, it makes me think that the two years were a waste. and even though i say that, i do not feel that i am particularly staying with him just because we have been together for so long. like i said before, in my post a couple months ago, i really do feel that there is potential for this relationship, but the rollercoaster of ups and downs puts a lot of weight on my shoulders and gets me down, especially when things aren't well. i'm not sure of what to do. on the days that we're good, i feel so happy and that things couldn't be better. unfortunately, all good things must come to an end, and then we get into this rut of being weird and having the awkwardness over the phone, and the short tempers in person. i either get irritated, or he gets pissed and then we just end up arguing again.any advice of what to do? i've tried everything. i try not to overreact over anything, but i feel that every girl deserves to be happy, and if they're not, then it's okay to have expectations, even if the guy disagrees. consequently however, the high expectations leads to the guy getting pissed and then blaming the girl, as if it was the girl's fault that there are problems in the relationship.he tells me that i am important and that he loves me, but i just don't feel it at times and it frustrates me... a lot.thanks
read your posts carefully and you will have your answer. this guy is not for you. you've given him information that he has chosen not to act on, either because he doesn't care or he isn't capable. cut your losses and move on.
I have to agree with 123maggie, assuming that you really have presented the situation to him, and he's chosen not to act. If you think you're holding back on what you need to say, then don't, because it could be just what he needs to hear - and the longer you wait, the worse it'll get. But assuming what I just said is wrong, and that he just isn't doing anything... you're going to really have to make a decision about whether you should actually be staying in a relationship with this guy or not. I'm no expert though, I don't even have a gf ;p...
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i'm back to say "been there, done that", and unfortunatley it typically doesn't work out.
good for you for recognizing the issues.
be strong enough and love/respect yourself enough to find someone who treats you in the way that you deserve. they are definitely out there!