For the life of me, I have no idea why, but it turns out I'm having difficulty keeping an erection with my girlfriend. And as a not-so-abnormal result, she doesn't feel too good about it too, because she feels as if she is not pretty enough. She says she doesn't understand that even though she's laying beside me, naked, I don't have a hard-on. But I think she's very pretty, I don't know what's causing it. When I'm going solo, there's no problem. Maybe it's the extend of time that it's supposed to stay hard? But still, I can't seem to come when I'm with her, not by hand or head. (and we've been postponing penetration cause, well, with this problem that won't go really smoothly). The fact I know she thinks about it and feels bad if I don't get hard, adds pressure, which makes it even harder (or lack there-of ). But anyway, I have a feeling there must be another reason. It is a fact that I've been tired (beforehand) every time we started, and even though my mind was always present and active, maybe I can't expect my tired body to follow, but still, people also have sex when tired, right? Another option is the fact that it's all been happening during the exams period. Due to exam stress I've had really bad sleeping (laying hour(s) awake before falling asleep) and maybe that same stress is subconsciously at work here. Again, not sure...Was wondering if you guys could give some input? Not sure what I'm looking for :s
Quite an awkward problem with girlfriend
You have described several valid reasons for your impotence: tired, stress, anxiety.Try not to think about the need to get hard when you are with her. Just enjoy your time together. It will come.
it happens. Sounds like your under a lot of stress....
Can you stay hard when you jack off? If you do, then what do you think about when you're doing it?
Try to make the connection