Normally, sex isnt something I think about too often. Lately however (since the last time my boyfriend and I messed around in my car) I can't seem to stop. I am a seventeen year old virgin, and as far as sex goes, I think I'm ready. I'm not totally sure, but I think I am. However, this is my first boyfriend and we've only been going out about four months. He is NOT a virgin, but hasn't asked me for anything. Sometimes I worry about that, but it's also got it's perks. Basically, my biggest concern is that I think I'm ready, but I'm not ready. My parents are big on the sex concept. They want me to wait until I'm twenty, and emotionally stable enough to deal with it. I don't want them to find out and freak. I'm also not on birth control yet, so that worries me, even though I know we'd use a condom. My thoughts are jumbled, I apologize, but if you could lend me some advice, I'd be greatful. Thank you.
When you know you're ready for sex...
I'm not encouraging you to jump in the sack but I don't think 20 is a magical age. My own opinion is that the first time should be with someone you care about and are committed to that shares those same feeling for you. If you are going to do it go to the doc or planned parenthood and get on birth control and still use a condom... every time. The choice is yours but the first step to knowing if your ready or not is being responsible enough to go and get birth control and take all the preventative measures to insure you don't wind up pregnant or with an STD at seventeen.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
It's totally dependent upon the individual. Some might be mentally ready for it, some might not be. You sound quite mature to me but I don't want you to rush into it with someone you don't love yet. I lost my virginity at 16. I didn't think I was ready, nor did I think I wasn't, but evidently I really wasn't. It wasn't under good circumstances either which didn't help. Now I've found "the one" I wish I hadn't been so stupid. Things would have been much better and that bad experience made things so much harder.I'm not saying everyone should wait until they have found the one they're going to be with forever, just someone who truly cares and doesn't pressure you. Take it at your own pace until you KNOW you're ready. You're in a win/win situation if you do. If you're not ready and you wait, you avoid a horrible first experience. If you were ready but still waited you can see more of your partner's true colours regarding where sex comes in comparison to you.
good Q's to ask urself, if u want to have sex 1st talk to ur BF ann Tell Him about ur V status.
2. GET on BIRTH CONTROL, if u decide to go a head and Give ur V to ur BF, but make sure ur mind is set, because once u do u cann't go back
ain't no use worrying, nothings going to turn out right.
i knew it when i was in sixeth