WTF do I do NOW!?!?!?

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Steve and I are trying to see each other next week. I want him to come out, so we agreed that he would talk to mom and apologize. This would be SO good. So anyways, tonight he calls me and I go out to get Mom and I tell her Steve wants to talk to her, and she goes "what why..?" and I tell her he wants to apologize, and she's like "No, I'm not in the mood to be on the phone, etc." LIKE WTF?!?!?!This is putting SO MUCH stress on me right now, I'm so fucking mad at her, I'm trying to get over what happened, and I want her to get over it too, because I'm TWENTY-ONE and if I want to stay with him, I'm going to. I am hoping he will come out tuesday.. And he got really sad because he heard her saying she doesn't want to talk to him. He's actually TERRIFIED to talk to Mom, and I think it's just annoying now. WTF do I do??This is SUCH a big step for Steve to be willing to do, it takes a lot of balls to talk to your girlfriends pissed off Mother, and she won't even get on the fucking phone. UGH

You're right it does take balls to call. Too bad your mother was adult enough to take his call.... In the long run, it will hurt yours and her relationship. not his...Good luck with the whole ordeal.I am a parent and I can understand why your mom is pissed but acting like this won't help.

I know... I love her, but she just hated seeing me so hurt, and she doesn't think he will change, so shes not giving him any chance. I don't know what to do

Just remember that the relationship with ur mother is a very important thing!!! Dont let anything come between that!!

Well, I'm not sure how things are in your household. Everyone run's their household differently. I have raised my kids to stand up on their own. To know and understand right from wrong and to follow thier passion. I do enforce the "My House, My Rules " law. This has caused conflict a few times becasue my 19 year old daughter seem to know more about life than I do especially when she doesn't like this rule. In most cases she will approch me with her wanting things to go her way attitude and we usually have a very long talk.It usually statrs as an argument, but turns into a talk after we both say what's on our minds. I will always be her father and I will always protect her for her entire life. Most of the time she is being a girl and she is thinking emotionally and not logically. It's my job as her parent to stamd firm and help her make the right decision. I'm not saying my way is right. but I want her to see that side of the coin before she makes her choice.Here's a true story...There was a ex-boyfriend who really broke her heart. without going into the whole drama ordeal. they broke up and for 3 weeks everynight she would call and cry on the phone telling me about how much it hurt. how sad she was. how much she missed him. asking why did he do this to her... The list was endless. She finly began to get over him and was doing better. then he called 7 or so months later and said he was really sorry, he didn't know what he was doing.That he loved her and he wanted to get back together. She fell apart again and then fell for his bull shit lines hook line and sinker. She informed me that he was coming down to see her for the weekend and she wanted him to stay in the guest room. I forbid it. I wasn't going to have that asshole in my house. Not after what he did to her. Not after breaking her heart like he did. I stood my ground and so did she. After many talks(Arguments) we came to an agreement that he could come see her but he wasn't going to stay in my house and I told her that "I" was going to be the one to pick him up from the airport. So I did. I picked him up. I was 2 1/2 hours late. (On purpose) We did had our little talk about me cutting off his little dick and feeding it to him if he hurts her again,and that he had a lot to prove to me if he was going to take this seriously this time. Oh and I told him that if he had plans of having sex with her this trip he was mistaken!!!!I dropped his ass off at the train train station and made him take the train to our town. I called my daughter and told her I was really busy at work and had to drop him off at the light rail station instead of driving him home from the airport and that she would have to pick him up at the train station in town.Still not please he was here, I let her do what she wanted to do.... See him.Yes! There is a god......I'm not sure what happened from the time I called her and said he was on his way to when she called in tears, saying they broke up again and she told him to leave I'm not sure. but all I do know is that all she said was "I couldn't do it dad. I thought I could, but I couldn't. He just hurt me too much" It took me 3 hours to find the kid. I picked his ass up, drove him to the airport. I paid $150.00 to change his return flight and paid for his hotel room that night because he didn't have a place to stay and the next fight out of town was 12:30pm the next day becasue he only had 23 bucks to his name. So.... If I were you. I would have a heart to heart with your Mom. But keep in mind, she might see something in this guy that you don't... Most of the time, most parents do thises things for you. try looking at it from thier point of view. We parents know alot, we have a few more life experiences under our belt than you do. We're not always right, but their isn't a book to raise your kids to. so at least try to look at it from our point of view before saying things like we're full of crap or that young these days people don't look at thinigs like that anymore.things have changed since we were kids that age....I agree with Stephanie. Your relationship with your mother is very important. be careful not to make some emotional decision and burn the brige you have with your mom.Hope this helps. I sorry. I didn't mean to ramble

Maybe you should just back off and quit pushing the issues so soon. Are you looking to create a big fight?

What is your problem with me? Do you think I'm some bitch looking to start a fight? It's not soon, this was going on since the end of May.

Quote:But keep in mind, she might see something in this guy that you don't... Most of the time, most parents do thises things for you. try looking at it from thier point of view. so do friends!!!!! Good story Roc.. You're a great dad.

If I wanted people to tell me im making the wrong decision here, I would have asked. But that's not the topic. =/ this is the problem, I'm trying to get over what happened, but I keep getting reminded of what happened

it is the topic kinda.I will never be able to forget what he did to you. Neither will your mother. He fucked up and she sees that.. i understand why she doesnt want to forgive him !

Askley,Well then I guess it's time for those around you to get over itas well. Be patient. all in all, it sounds like everyone is only watching over you to try to protect you...Stephie..Thanks!I try real hard and tell them every day and every night that I love them. I have made my share of many mistakes but I always try to keep it pretty fair and apologize to them when I was wrong.

Why don't you tone down the sensitivity and your insecurity. I don't have a problem "with you". I'm just saying you are pushing an issue where all the parties don't want to play. Push too hard and things can blow up.

I can understand your frustration but there's no denying that your relationship with your mother is equally important to protect. I have no idea what it's like in your household, I'm personally not very attached to my father for several issues. So, I would probably disregard his opinion. But that's just me. No two relationships are the same and presuming you wish to keep your relationship with your mother as healthy as possible the bet suggestion is to just talk to her and explain to her that at the end of the day, the pathway through your life if your own choice, but you would be grateful if she could support your decisions along the way.There are ways of sorting issues like this, it takes a bit of give and take from both parties.