I'm not sure what the problem is. I've been having some great make out sessions with this girl and I care a lot about her. I've only tried sex once and it was before I was really ready (tight foreskin, ect) so when I tried then I couldn't seem to get an erection, this was with someone I had no feels or attraction to. this girl I actually like a good bit. well, the only thing prolonging sex was that time of the month so when ever I tried to sneak my hand into her pants I'd get the hand slap. she had been giving me hjs to keep me at bay I. I came pretty quickly which made me wonder if she'd want to go all the way. finally happened today and again I couldn't for the life of me get an erection. Basically it went down like this, she was on the counter and was rubbing my thing on her thing which was awesome, she was so wet. then I sat down on the counter and she tried jerking me to get me hard still no good. we ended up on the ground me on top, still couldn't do it. finally I rolled over on my back and she got on top of me and I STILL couldn't what the FUCK? she was grinding all over me and getting pretty into it and I think I finally got half an erection (man, I can't seem to feel it ??) and she was going to town then and I ended up coming with out even getting an erection (how embarrassing) and I didn't even put a condom on. she was covered in sweat and kept wiping her face on my face to get the sweat off then got really shy after wards and ran to get dressed. I didn't show how upset I was but I told her afterward that it wasn't her and that it had been a while and I just couldn't focus. she said that we should not think and let us take at the time of passion. I was like WHAT? we both had condoms ready and yet we still didn't use protection because of my problem. btw I tried going down on her to take my mind somewhere else (so I could warm her up and mabye get myself ready?) and she kept pulling me back up. next time I'm going straight for oral and hopefully that will turn me on.tl;dr: I can't get my thing hard enough before I come. what should I do to get a solid erection and how would I go about lasting longer.
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Can't seem to fuckus?
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You were just too nervous about it all. Quit "thinking" about it.
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yeah that is what I told her... I just cannot get out of my head for some reason.
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Most men have been there at one time or other. All I can say is don't focus on what your dick is doing, or not doing. Stay in the moment. I can tell you the anxiety will pass, give it a little time.
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same thing happened today.. was trying and trying she kept grinding on me and it just wasn't working. finally started feeling it and I thought I was about to come so I pulled out and I was like semi hard so I put the condom and and we continued and I was flaccid after 3-4 minutes and couldn't get up after that. I think I have to get a boner before my cloths come off or something, mabye I'm just too paranoid about my penis. I mean, she has jerked me off a pretty good bit before hand and I'd come pretty quickly so I don't know why I wouldn't be able to get it up during the real thing.
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this is becoming like, my pathetic sex life blog. haha.so yeah, things went better today. she played with it until I was pretty hard and then we went at it for a few minutes and I felt the urge so I pulled out and tried to slap a condom on and keep going.. came right when I got the condom on so I just put it back in and we went at it for a few more minutes until I went soft.. I'm sort of worried I don't know why, but she pulled the condom off and wiped me off with a paper towel then got me on the ground and started grinding me. I don't think a paper towel is going to keep semen from getting to her...
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Stupid... You guys are gonna screw up and get pregnant that way.
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Why do you wait to put on a condom after you've already penetrated her? That makes zero sense. You do know you're going to knock her up that way if she's not on birth control.
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im just guessing here, but u are probably to worried about screwing up than pleasing either one of you
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I don't know, I just get into the moment and want to make her feel good and I'm so worried I won't get it up that I just let her do what ever she thinks is necessary. bad idea and I won't let this kind of thing happen again.
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Like sdp said, you're thinking way too much.And if you feel like trying again, don't be foolish and put a condom on first! Condoms will not work if you wait to put it on while you're flaccid.