Alright well, me and my girlfriend had sex a few months back, and yeah it hurts the first time for most girls, but even when we weren't having sex or anything, it still randomly hurts her, she thinks that since shes kind off young and I'm sorta "big" that i like messed up something inside her, i don't know if age matters about the vagina size or deepness or whatever, but shes afraid to do it again because she thinks I'm too "massive" I'm not trying to sound conceded but, I'm just trying to find out if it's my fault or anxiety or what...... Ill appreciate any help.
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Girlfriend thinks i did something to her
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Welcome to A2A, FantasyMan!Women often feel sore for a couple of days after the first time, especially if the guy was big and/or she was nervous, but a few months is not normal. It's possible it is psychological but it's also possible there is something physical, perhaps some inflammation or infection. She really should have an internal examination, but I assume that would be difficult - there wouldn't be a clinic she could go to, I suppose?You haven't said how young she is, but yes, the vagina grows as it develops in puberty, just as a guy's penis does. I assume you are fairly young, so she could well be not physically ready for sex with you. At any rate she doesn't seem psychologically ready, and you have to respect that.I don't know how big you are but guys who are unusually long do have to be careful in sex. A long penis can hit the cervix, which most women find very uncomfortable, and that means no plunging in with wild abandon. Also, guys who are thicker than usual have to take it slowly at first, with plenty of lube.
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Well she just turned fourteen and I'm sixteen,
and i don't know if theirs a clinic we can go to but, yeah i do respect her and i told her I'd wait until shes ready again, and she said she was ready again the other day and i got it in like half way and she said stop and i did because i hurt her again, but now she doesn't feel any pain. And I'm like (if you look off a ruler) I'm two knothches over 9 and a half, when im hard, and i don't know my width, but its like a type of strong looking with. -
At that size and her age you probably did hurt her. You are way above average and well.. 14?? In my opinion thats way too young for sex.. but whatever.
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If you are measuring correctly you are going to have to be careful with any woman, since most would be unable to take that much length comfortably.
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Yeah i figured,and we just kindoff stick to anal nowand she loves it so yeahand shes comfortable with itbut she hasent had any pains ever since the other daywe tried it again and it hurt her but it helped her i guess, i dont know we both agreed to wait untill shes olderbecause i am going to actualy stay with hershes not like a young slutso just so you dont get the wrong idea about this.
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I would hope that no-one would think she was a slut from what you have told us.
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Shes Not A Slut Ive Been Her First For Like Everything From Holding Hands Up To This, And Im Like Her Knight In Shining Armor, And We Know Were Going To Last And We Love And Trust Eachother And Thats Why We Think Its Ok.And If Youre Wondering No I Dont Force Her To Do Anything, Thats Wrong.
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That's very nice to hear.
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Originally Posted By: FantasyManIve Been Her First For Like Everything From Holding Hands Up To This Is she YOUR first too? (I'm also 16 and I'm just under 7", and I have to be careful that I don't put myself into my gf in too deep. And you're a LOT bigger than me, so you might only be able to comfortably put in less than half of your entire shaft. Maybe even less han that with her since she is VERY young for this yet.) Quote:And If Youre Wondering No I Dont Force Her To Do Anything, Thats Wrong. Yeah, but I bet you definitely leave the impression that you want it or you'd really like it, and she prolly really wants to please you. So that's why she is trying, even though it doesn't sound like she is enjoying it at all at this point.