I am 20 years old. Back when I was 18-19 i had everything a guy at this age could want. An awesome job, several girls, new clothes, a nice car, and parties to go to every weekend. My parents supported me and gave me spending money on top of my work money, as long as i went to school. But I had a horrible secret, I droped out of college for a year already because I was having too much fun, and lied to them and continue to get money when I wasnt going to school. 8 months ago, they found out and cut me off. I lost my job, and about 7 months ago, because I neglected to change the oil in my car, the entire engine is frozen and I need to replace my car because its only worth $2,000. At that point I started doing drugs a lot, and couldnt find a job. This last month i moved back home with my parents, I am 20 years old living at home...again after 2 years of being on my own. I go to school, and i have found a job. But I still do not have a car, and i make barely any money at my shitty job. Everyday I wake up and feel miserable, I know I fucked up...and everything is my fault. Any1 ever been through anything like this before? I feel like the biggest looser ever, I dont have a car...my parents take me to college, I have no money to hang out with my friends or date girls anymore. I've never felt so pathetic in my life.I am only 20 years old but I feel like I have lived through everything, I wake up everyday and feel like I am dead inside...even though on the outside, I am normal.
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Rock Bottom....how to cope ?
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Any1 ever been through anything like this before?no.. but my older brother has been kicked out and let back in. He dropped out of college too and recently decided he’d go to a trade school. My brother is 26 years old. My parents are so big on education that as long as we are in school we have a free roof. After my dad got enough of Ryan he just told him to move out. HE quite school and got in trouble for having a party while they were gone. SO he moved in with his friend. Well this summer he told dad that he got laid off at the gym. He had a good job at the gym. Well He Didn’t get laid off… he lied to cover his ass. He;s told him friends I guess me too even though it wasn’t directed at me - I mean he was kind of bragging about it to his friends. But anyway he got fired for doing the bosses daughter in the staff bathroom a few times and got busted. So he got fired. (My parents still don’t know - I been sworn to his secret… We he couldn’t help pay the bills and rent so he had to move back in and dad let him. Cus he thinks he got laid off. He got a job at a pool store. They sell pools and pool things. It’s not the pay he was getting. He is starting in Jan in a technical program thing. It’s night school. All my brother wants to do is get ass. Even when he parties its not to get wasted it’s to get ass. To ineligible- btw, he’s got a new girl plus the one that has been hanging around.
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I guess thats kinda similar to my situation...and kinda not lol. I pray to god im not going to be 26 and moving back home again. Thanks for sharing
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Many people have built up a business or farm or career over many years and then lost it all, and started again. It can be done! And whereas often for them it was pure bad fate from which little could be learnt, you are in the better situation that after only a relatively short time you have learnt some things not to do. If you can take the right attitude to what happened, as part of your education rather than some permanent failure, there is no reason why you can't come back much stronger than you were before. After all, that good life before was really supported by your parents based on a lie - it wasn't anything sustainable.
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I myself am in the process of hopefully coming out of one of the most misrible times of my life. This year was supposed to be a defining year in my life, it has mostly, but the past 3 months have been aweful and made me quite ill.Life is full of ups and downs, whilst the ups are great it is how you deal with the downs that show you have character.You will learn valuable lessons going through what you are going through, you will not make the same mistakes again, you'll be a stronger person for it! Life is fucking hard work, it you want to keep on top of it, it's brutal. You will get fucked over plenty in your life, sometimes things will happen that will make you soo angry and depressed but those feelings will go in time and you will be able to pick your life up and move on again!Always remember that however bad your life is there are people out there who have it worse, be greatful of what you have because there are people out there with nothing, closer to home than you'd think.Everyone has problems, Im now feeling good for the future, i've grown more this year than any other stage of my life (at 24). Take the rough will the smooth, good things are undoutedly round the corner (or the next!).
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Quote: good things are undoutedly round the corner (or the next!). What a positive attitude!! Would that we could all live our lives this way.
