ok so heres the story...ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now...we live together and have amazing sex...literally the best ive had. we r very open and allow each other to watch porn. lately ive been working 6 days a week so he uses my computer alot. a few weeks ago i went to go look at the history to get back to a page i went on previously and saw some gay porn on the history list...today i saw more of it. my bf is very masculine and would never be gay but i dont know whether i should tell him that i saw it. i dont want him to think im checking on what hes doing but im a little worried. he likes to get a Rim job once in a while but ive known alot of men that liked it....so do u think i should confront him? if so how??? i dont want this to ruin our relationship...i wana marry this guys....Thanx guys!!!
DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...PLZ HELP
My guess is that you're not going to be satisfied until you have an answer. And there's a whole big ol' grey area between being totally straight and being totally gay.
How old are you two? Did you find a lot of gay porn on the history list, or was it mixed in with straight porn? If it's one page, well, it might have been a mistake. If it's several pages, you're bound to be curious.
He might be living a total lie, about to dump you for a cute waiter he found. But let's hope not! Let's hope he's like a lot of young guys who are curious about other dudes, or maybe a little fetishy about big penises ... but not about to change his life with you.
There's grey areas here. Did you look at the gay porn he was looking at? I think what you want to do, to satisfy your curiousity, is go back and find what he was looking at, and then maybe pull it up on the screen in front of him, and tell him something you found hot or interesting or in some other way worth talking about. You probably don't want it to be a confrontation as much as a jumping-off point to talk about your personal sexuality and sexual feelings.
Does that make any sense?
I don't think this is worth the worry your putting into it. Just because someone may get off to something doesn't necessarily mean that it's something they want to bring into their lives. I've looked at some wild shit, even whacked it to some of it, it doesn't mean I'm into that kind of shit in my real life, not by a long shot.
I think your trying to cast his sexuality to far in one direction or the other, that's not how most people work. Most folks sexuality is predominately hetero or homo but predominately is not entirely.
I say let his sexuality be what it is. I don't think this is worth the confrontation. If you think it best to confront do it in as non-judgmental way as possible most guys aren't going to like being called out, much less questioned, about their homoerotic curiosities.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
...ive seen what he looks at and its just regular gay porn or threesome gay porn...im really worried because i came home today and found that hes been looking at more of it...he usuaslly mixes it in with straight porn...im soo scared to ask him about it because he might take it the wrong way and knowing him he will just to defend himself...i cant stop thinking about it i cry at night because of it...i dont think hes gay but even though i wont admit it to him it creaps me out a lil knowing that it turns him on (if it does). i dont think i can look at him the same way anymore because of it..i have nothing against gay people (my best friend is gay) but i dont wana end up one of those women that are with a guy who is in the closet untill they are 50....oh and by the way hes older then me hes 26..his friends are all macho and some r even homophobic so i just dont get it ='(