Still having a hard time trying to get her...

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Hey
there's this girl that i've liked since the beginning of 9th grade (we're in 2nd semester 10th grade now)
after about a year and a half now i'm still having a hard time trying to get with her
the whole year of 9th grade it was ups and downs, cause she liked another guy, but eventually he pissed her off and she wasn't friends with him anymore :smirk:
after that, i started talking to her more and it seemed like she kind of liked me, but i didnt know what to do cause i was a really shy guy
i started sitting at her lunch table near the end of the school year and she was talking to me more and looking at me more when i wasnt looking so it seemed like she did like me at that time, i was just too afraid to say anything though
during the summer we talked occasionally, i even went out to see a romance comedy movie with her 3 days before my 15th birthday (i didnt see her looking at me much though or flirting so i figured she just wanted to go see it with me a friend or something, and she asked me out cause she was talking about it and i said i wanted to see it too cause it looked funny)
for the rest of the summer (2 months after) we didnt really talk cause she had summer homework so she was really busy. before we went back to school though (10th grade now) i got my braces off about 3 weeks before and the week after she asked me to go to a end of the summer party (pool party)
the party was good at first cause it wasn't a lot of ppl and she was talking to me a lot and complimenting me on my nice teeth (no braces)
until the middle when some guy she also invited came and he flexed out his six pack :open_mouth:
she was talking to him for the rest of the party cause he's really funny. she also tried holding hands with him a lot he held them once but then let go after a few seconds (he's not attracted to her)
i was depressed near the end of the party and she asked if i was alright i said im fine just cramps (i literally had cramps in my feet so it was part of my downer too)
she even went to check up on me that night about 3 hours after the party ended
then school started, 10th grade now. i asked for her schedule the week before after orientation, turns out we had no classes or lunch together. i was a bit sad :smirk: on the 2nd week of school, we had a fire alarm drill (typical) and i was looking for my best friend and while i was looking she actually came up to me (she was behind me so i didnt notice her) and said hey to me and stayed with me for the rest of the drill (i forgot about my friend lol) it seemed good at that time. i also noticed we were perfect size now cause at the beginning of 9th grade she was an inch taller and now im more than 2 inches taller than her, so i figured we'd match as a couple. we had a football game about a month and a half after school started, and i tagged myself along with her and one of her girlfriends (cause my no spirit friends didn't show up) i had glasses now, i got them about a few days before (i really needed them) to be honest now i look like a nerd with them and i only wear them in class now. anyways, me and her were talking until that guy from the summer party showed up, she was trying to touch him a lot again until she caught him with the girl that he liked, she looked kind of down cause he was completely ignoring her, so she pulled out her ipod and we were listening to music together and talking for the rest of the game. after the game, me and her didnt talk for a few months (occasionally commenting on facebook/myspace) and in december she invited me to a concert, it seemed pretty big cause it was her #1 favorite band and my #2 favorite band was going to be there, and it was her 1st concert ever (my 2nd one). it was just me and her that day, but she didnt really flirt with me, she did actually touch me a couple of times though like she layed her head down on my shoulder once for a few seconds. then after the concert, about 3 weeks after before we went off for winter break, i gave her a christmas present (she was saying how she wanted this new album that one of the bands played at the concert, so i burned her the new album) she just said a simple thanks and gave me a one arm hug and then it seemed like she wanted me to go away. it left me really confused. about 5 minutes before school started, she ditched me to go with her girlfriends. about a few days after, i felt i had enough confidence to ask her out, so i asked her out to the movies. we had to reschedule to the next weekend, cause she was with family. then when that next weekend came, i was all excited and checked up on her to see if she was going or not, she just said "i don't think so" i was kind of mad cause i had other plans that i moved, so now i had nothing to do. after i calmed down, i asked if she wanted to reschedule it again, she just said "no and forget it" i was really sad after that, i don't know what went wrong. i almost forgot, before break i finally told my best friend and even her best friend that i liked her, her best friend said it was cute, but i didnt ask her for help or anything lol, while my best friend has been trying to help me. the week after we got back from break (2nd semester now) i was starting to get over her, even still being depressed from her canceling our date. after one night, when i actually got over her, i had a dream about her and when i woke up i realized i missed her. this happens a lot, when i try to get over her i just have a dream about her and im even more crazy for her than ever, there's like no way. she still hasn't bothered to contact me, and i think she got a new phone and maybe a new number im not sure. ive seen her a few times in school since we got back, she just gives me looks. i told my cousin that i liked her and he's been telling me to talk to her and ask her why she canceled our date. i don't think that'll solve anything, i think it'll make things more awkward between us (not sure?). i really like her and still want her really bad i think about her all the time and i've never felt this way about anyone, can i get any help? :smile:

Welcome to A2A, DaDude.Wow, what a story. But it's really a pretty typical one of a guy who is still rather shy. You'll never know what a girl is thinking until you ask her. Maybe she had a good reason for cancelling the last time. She had sent you plenty of signals that she is interested in you. Ask her out again and see what she says. If she's not interested, move on to someone else.Let us know how you do.

I can GUARANTEE you (!) that if you don't try now, you'll ALWAYS regret it.Good luck