Is it bad that I cant make a girl orgasm with sex?

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While I am having sex, I hear that I am very good. However, of the three partners I have had, I have never been able to last long enough to make them orgasm. I know that there are various exercises I can do to make myself last longer, and I have tried them, but I still can't last long enough. I have been sexually active for 2 years now. I can make girls cum by going down on them, etc, but never via intercourse. I think the girl having an orgasm is the sexiest thing in the world, and I really wish I could last long enough to make them cum while having intercourse. I always feel bad, even though I know I probably shouldn't. I just love women so much and respect them so much that I want to make my sexual partners as happy as possible. I have been with my current girlfriend for about 1 year, and she doesn't think she has ever had an climactic orgasm in her life. However, she is LOVES sex and having me go down on her. She always says that she feels extremely fulfilled after a "session". She says there is a point that she reaches while having sex that she does feel fulfilled, though its not a sudden rush like what she hears orgasms are like. I was wondering what some girls here think when they have sex with someone and they dont reach an orgasm. Is it a loss? Is it still fulfilling? How about if it is only a one-time random hookup? The kind of hookup that is still a little awkward because you and your partner don't know each other's bodies as well as you would know the bodies of someone with whom you were in a long-term relationship. I know this isn't the best place to post this. I didnt know where would be a good place so I figured some girls would at least see it here.

Have you tried positions with her on top? Most guys last longer that way.

Oh yes, I have tried it with her on top many times. Is it more common for girls to be able to orgasm when they are on either the top or bottom?Also, if any girls are reading this, I would really appreciate responses in regards to my above questions, including whether or not having sex without being pushed to an orgasm is still fulfilling. Thanks!

I have never been able to last long enough to make them orgasm. You never stated exactly how long this is timewise.

Originally Posted By: sdp I have never been able to last long enough to make them orgasm. You never stated exactly how long this is timewise. Oh yeah!well, I actually can last sort of long if I start and stop a lot and dont get a regular rhythm going for very long periods of time. Then, I can last for up to 10 or 15 minutes, longer if I had sex in the past couple hours and I go really slowly and stop a lot. However, my average time, assuming I am thrusting non stop and I haven't had sex in the past couple hrs, is less than 5 minutes. I was under the impression that for girls to orgasm, they usually need constant stimulation, especially rhythmic stimulation. I figured that my stopping would make them "lose it".

I suspect that is pretty normal.

Women vary a lot in how readily they can orgasm from penis-in-vagina stimulation. Quite a proportion can't do it that way at all.

I'm still wondering what girls think about when the have sex and don't reach an orgasm. I understand everything that has been said above, but I would really like to hear what some girls have to say.

Girls......? Please? anyone of you?

I truly enjoy sex even without an orgasm, still great.

I have a problem with entry (I've only tried fingering), so sex would be even more of a challenge. When I was fingered I didn't feel anything but pressure and stretching, and sharp pain, overall non fulfilling experience. I never had an orgasm. It hurt and felt uncomfortable. I still organism through clitoral stimulation and oral. That's fine by me ('cause I don't have to take birth control, or worry about condoms; there's less risk of pregnancy without intercourse). The guys I would date may want to go further so those will be one of the issues I'll have to deal with.

There are other ways to make a woman orgasm besides intercourse. If she needs to have an orgasm when you two have intercourse, they that maybe be something you'll have to work on, but if she's happy with having an orgasm by other means than go the other routes.

I've only ever come from intercourse alone about two or three times in my life. It's better for me to use my fingers on my clit to help get myself there than from just expecting the man to do all the work it's still fulfilling even if I don't come, but it's so much better if it's an in sync orgasm!

@gimmegimme54 There are lots of women who do not orgasm through sex and thrusting away for a long time is not the way to go, your doing the right thing with oral sex and working on the clitoris, this women do love, anyone else having problems please do go and visit www.dodsonandros.com your find all the answer you will ever need there.

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