Alright, without trying to make this too long...I just need some outside thoughts on my current relationship. Anyways, this will probably be really long.I've been dating my gf for over a month. We've known each other for about 3 months total, and this whole time has basically been a "relationship", we never started out as friends or anything, it was soley in the intent to turn into a relationship.The last long term relationship she had ended with her then bf attacking her. This shocked her obviously, especially since she has told me that she thought she was going to marry him and then he randomly snapped. That was about a year ago. Since then she had a rebound relationship that lasted ~1 month, and just another short one over the summer.Before we "officially" started dating she told me that she would be ready when she is ready to be "official"...and that day came over a month ago.So the problem, or well the area I need advice in, is the fact that she literally will scare herself with thoughts of "us". Example one;She will tell me she is scared how much she likes me because it means we're getting closer. She is scared because she likes me so much in such a short span of time... Or, that she is scared of getting closer...but wants to get closer.Example two;She initially was hesitant to let me kiss her (a long time ago when we first met). Now she is scaring herself because of how much she actually wants to kiss me etc. In the end she ends up kissing me, but it bothers her she likes me "that much". Example three; First, I am not talking about having sex, this is such spending the night. The first time I spent the night at her apartment, she couldn't sleep, citing the last time that she slept with another man, he choked her. Which is obviously true. Anyways, she couldn't sleep at all because she was scared. The next time, she fell asleep on me in a timely manner and was HAPPY but also scared because she has let herself do this.Basically it is a pattern. She is scared of the relationship advancing, and it is still continuing to do so. She has also said things to the effect of "I am starting to realize that I may not just really like you, but I may love you." She is one of those people who SAYS WHAT THEY MEAN no matter what. If she feels it, she says it. Basically, soon enough she is going to realize that she may love me and she will say it but I am worried just how much it may freak her out and how terrified she will be.Just tonight we were watching a movie and she looked at me and said "I can't believe I am saying this...but I really don't want you too leave".Now I don't know what this looks like from the outside, but I need opinions. I know it isn't me causing her to be like "I don't want to get close to you or have you stay over etc", but I think I know it is her fear of allowing herself to be able to get hurt again.I don't think she is going to just get up and run away because she does care about me, and her rebound relationship had a lot of problems (her best friend has told me all about it) and it has been about 7 months since then.While she may not be fully healed, I feel like she is getting better...but it is frustrating for me to be able to continually have to tell her that it is "okay" and that I am not going to hurt her etc.To my aide, I also have all of her friends and even her mom typically siding with me when she freaks out about us getting closer or anything, but in the end the decision will be ultimately hers. Her mom even told her straight up to not let me pay for her ex boyfriends mistakes...We were just seperated for about a week and a half as she went hom for Thanksgiving and she did tell me that she misses me and wishes she was with me etc...and in another 2 and 1/2 weeks she will be gone for christmas break for a month...but I do plan to see her over break.Her big ex bf really screwed up her life a lot because he was such a big factor in her overall life. I know this, and I am being very patient and I really do care for her. However, I just don't know how to continually deal with her freaking out and being terrified about intamicy? She freaks out sometimes and asks me how I deal with it / put up with it (It isn't all that bad, it's like 30 minutes of her being in disbelief that she is allowing herself to get emotionally involved with another person) and she will ask me why I don't just run away...I tell her I am not going anywhere(because aside from all the past..she is truly amazing and fun to be around)...my bigger concern is she going to go anywhere...and what can I do to continue to help the process. She tells me when I am around I bring her down to earth and calm her down so I am doing something right...but I just feel like I need to be able to do more.