Okay well heres the deal. I am 22 years old and have been with this chick for about a year. Well within the first 2 months we got engaged and I think the main reason was because I was leaving to work in Kuwait. Well around Christmas I found out that she had cheated on me and aftre some thought we decided that we should give it another shot and see what happened. I have been back home for about 30 days and am now back in Kuwait for another 4 months and when we are together I dont have any doubts that that is what I want. I want the two of us too be together for the rest of our lives, but the second I leave I start questioning what she is doing and if wonder if she is out cheating or whatever else. I would say that I question what she is doing about 2 times a week. Well we are supose to get married on Dec 18 2004 and I guess my question is do you think I will ever be able to trust her and have the great relationship like we did before she cheated? Any help suggestions or anything else would be appriciated.
Will I ever trust her?
What was her reasoning for cheaing on you?
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm sorry, but if you don't trust her, and obviously if she's done you wrong before she must not be the girl for you. For a long distance relationship (even for a short time) to work you need a trusting relationship. What happens if you go TDY for two months? or you got an FTX for a couple weeks. You're gonna be paranoid thinking if shes home with another guy in your bed. Me, I am in the same boat as you. But I am in Iraq with a wife at home. I can trust her with my eyes closed and she can trust me, we have that bond together. I know everything about her and we have been engaged for a year before we married prior to my deployment. She has never cheated on me and I have never cheated on her. If I knew my wife had previously cheated on me before, I would be worried too, like you are. And thats not healthy. I would not have made the choice to marry her either, no matter how much I loved her. Sorry to say.
I think you may be the type of guy that falls for a girl rather quickly. Engaged - after two months? You haven't even had enough time to truly know each other. I'm telling you, if she lies, and even worse, cheats on you, so early into the relationship, its bound to happy sometime or another.
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Her reason for cheating, well she was drinking one night and it just happened.
That's a pretty lame excuse. I wouldn't marry this girl. You haven't know each other for that long, and most of the time you're not even around her.
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