So I i apologize but this post may be rather long, i have been searching the internet for solutions and i have found none so i am coming here to ask because i know you will all help me =]I am 18 and recently i have been seeing a girl i like ALOT. Now i am very unexperienced,the farthest i have gone is making out and above the waist stuff. however she is much more experienced than me( I know from word of mouth and i can tell by the way she acts)she has had sex. Now i am not a prude i go about everything confidently and i am not worried im like that i'm looking dumb doing sexual things because i feel comfortable with her and she knows im not that experienced. yet the farthest we have gone is still making out and above the belt. Now recently we have been getting very into it, making out alot and this ends up leading into basically dry humping. now i have been experiencing a problem with this because she is pushing hard, with her waist its basically like sex with clothes on. and it ends up with me cumming in my pants after about 2 minutes of it. its extremelly frustrating for me because it just breaks the mood of things for me... i dont really stop once it happens, i go on for awhile untill she cools down. and then i always have to get up and go to the bathroom to wash up and figure out what im doing with my underwere and stuff. (its convenient when this happens at my house but when im at hers its very awkward, and messy)ANd before i make it soubnd like all we do is make out and hook up i want to say that this is actually a normal relationship, we do stuff like a normal couple we really dont hook up all that much im just talking about it alot because its were the problem is.Now the thing is this Jizz pantsing happens sometimes twice a time we get together and it drives me insane....Is this normal for someone like me to experience and what can i do to prevent it?. i dont know. just give me some advice...my only solution is to wear 2 pairs of underware so then i can flip them when it happens but the problem is getting out of hand .... and old...i'm rambling please help. ill just respond to what you guys say.thanks much
Hormones!! Damn things are tough to control and sometimes bloom when you don't want them to. Yes, you are normal. What you are doing is the precursor to sex and your body is responding appropriately.
You might try jacking off before you see her. That should take some of the pressure off.
i have been doing that and yes it helps a good deal.but what should i do in regards to cleaning up and making sure she doesnt/does knw about it?im not concerned its happening im concerned about making it seem more natural....
I don't believe for a minute that a girl who is sexually experienced, as you say she is, doesn't know the effect she is having on you. She realizes what is happening.Sexual stimulation leads to ejaculation. Period.
So she knows your saying, i feel like it migh tbe her goal almost....
but like... idk its messy i dont know lol....
its not that i dont like it i just dont like that i always have to stop and clean up...
am i doing the right thing by stopping after awhile and cleaning it up or should i just leave it? lol
this could be a dumb question but i feel i must ask...
Personally I think your making to much out of this. Cleaning up is fine as long as your aren't jumping up and running off to go do it.
Like Ready said, if she's experience she probably knows. I don't know how long you expect to "keep it in the pants" but for that period it may be something you just have to deal with. You might have to put up with squishiness until you move on to a handjob phase of your relationship and things are easier to clean.
Two pair of underwear sounds uncomfortable, hot, sweaty and smelly. Going this route would probably decrease stimulation enough you wouldn't have to worry about cumming at all but then if things progressed to some serious frontage action you're going to have to explain why you have on two pairs of underwear. It just doesn't seem worth it to me.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
When you're getting hard, go to the bathroom and put on a condom. Then come back and continue. Or ask her to put it on for you.