I'm a 22 year old male who still wakes up with a raging boner every morning and has to jerk off in the shower just to start the day. I am also an extremely self-conscious person with low self-esteem. Unfortunately this combo has further complicated my almost non-existent sex life. It doesn't matter if I'm with a really hot girl or someone I have a strong emotional connection with, or even by fulfilling a fetish...I just can't get hard or stay hard. During every sexual encounter, I can't help worrying over how I'm performing. Whether its over making out, fingering, fucking, or even cuddling, I always end up worrying if I'm doing it right, or how I compare to previous partners. I just can't seem to relax and enjoy sex, no matter who I'm with. Now let's get a few things straight. I don't have erectile dysfunction. I'm not seriously depressed. I do know that my problem is all in my head. I know I should get professional help over my self-esteem issues. With that being said, in the meantime is there anything I can take to help me perform during sex...like an aphrodisiac or Viagra without a prescription? Anything over the counter? I don't want to damage my reproductive system, and as a student I don't have the money to pay for therapy...so this is pretty much what I've boiled it down to. Please reply with any advice. This problem has been killing my self-esteem.
Erections Issues & Sexual Anxiety
You're absolutely correct that anxiety is an erection killer. I realize that it's easier said than done, but just don't worry about whether you're doing it right. If you both have orgasms, you're doing it right, regardless of what you did!! She's not with a previous partner--she's with you and loving it for sure.Try not to think about what should or will happen. Just relax, take your time, and let things happen. Nature will take it's course. A few times to get your confidence up and you won't believe you ever posted this.
if your employed, perhaps your insurance will cover the cost for the therapy sessions or even a consult. If your a student, most university's have a walk in clinic on campus that you can visit and it's usually at no cost or very minimal cost. Look into it.
Just relax don't worry enjoy sex!If one pleasures himself daily or often,your semen is lower and thus your sexuality also limiting your erections possibly.Good luck,enjoy,try and get therapy if it doesn't improve.Chubs
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