Does amount of orgasms determine your sex drive?

A Former User

Does the amount of orgasm determine your sex drive? (stupid phone won't let me type the title in)So the stupid guy I been talking about in previous posts (which I was still "dating" until last night) said that I have a high sex drive because he was able to make me orgasm multiple times. I said it's different because I still dint have this big desire for sex and it's not like I have to fight my urges. I wouldn't even call them urges. I get bored, lazy, and easily distracted and most porn makes me nauseous. The only reason I was able to orgasm multiple times was because someone else was getting me off. I don't think it accurately measures my desire for...it felt good and I was satisfied with that. I didn't care about going farther.

Ineligible

Everyone is an individual, and no scale, no single measure, can describe a person well.

A Former User

I don't know...he confused me a lot.

ClassyBlackWoman

No, it means he just knew how to give you orgasms

A Former User

I think I led him on, but I said I didn't want to have sex. He didn't believe. :frowning:

I' like fooling around, but I knew he wanted more and I wasn't comfortable with that.

ClassyBlackWoman

Um...if you didn't want to have sex, then you shouldn't have. How long have you been talking/fooling around with this guy?

A Former User

I didn't have sex.Hmmm...it's been a while now. I stopped hanging out with him some time before Thanksgiving I think and then we had our IM argument (he didn't want to talk face to face, so we were on Facebook) beginning of December. I haven't talked/chatted with him since. We met online in late September and had our first date in October (see here). It was doomed from the start.

JTMac

Sounds like he's telling you that to get you to think you're someone who craves/needs more sex. A sex drive is the sum total of how much time you spend having AND just thinking about sex. You can have a sex drive and not be having any sex. It's the craving. On the other hand, you can can a low sex drive & have all those orgasms because you were put in a situation (hopefully willingly) where that was the outcome.