Me again, screwing up again....

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[b][/b]how r u doing?

It sounds like he's trying to get you pregnant on purpose. Why would he want to scare you into thinking you're pregnant, knowing you don't want to be??? You're in college, if you go to the campus clinic you can get a BIG discount on birth control or anything else the clinic offers. When I was taking birth control I got mine for $15, at an off campus pharmacy without insurance it was around $80. There is no reason you can't be prepared, there's so much readily available to protect yourself. Think of all the hard decision you'll have to make if you're not ready (mentally or financially) for a child and the decision to not stay with your boyfriend will be simple. He doesn't even understand/care why y'all need to take better precaution.

This seems like a important event in your life, something that you two need to agree on.Take control of your life and what happens to you. You have this time, so take it. There are other options besides Plan B. You don't have to keep relying on that. There's also non-hormonal birth control methods. I've been looking in to those myself, but right now the only one that's ideal is tubal litigation.

update: me and that guy didnt work out, and frankly i'm relieved, looking back on it all. now i have a wonderful boyfriend who for some reason puts up with me and my neuroticism...says he loves it, in fact, since its part of me. go figure.anyway, so what brings me back here is this: i am having yet another pregnancy scare. y this keeps happening to me i dont know. i thought i was smarter than this. earlier this month we ended up having unprotected sex and i took plan b for the first time since new year's. i think this caused me to have one day or so in which i had menstrual-like bleeding, but that could have been because i was just finishing menstruating anyway.so we spent a week or so with my parents a week ago, then when we got back went crazy on eachother and ended up having unprotected sex when we got back to school. he was nowhere near finishing before we put a condom on, but i still didnt feel right about it in retrospect. the next day, we got drunk and had unprotected sex for a short period of time, the same way (we put on a condom and he wasnt even close). a day or so later i talked to one of my professors, who told me that there is sperm in precum, which caused a rise in pregnancies last year. i felt so stupid and anxious for days, but decided to check out some websites that seemed reputable enough, which said that there is no sperm in precum. im so confused. is livestrong a good site? who do i believe? should i be freaking out?

Typically there is no sperm in precum. However, if he has ejaculated, through masturbation for example, and has not yet urinated before having sex, it is possible that the precum could pick up some sperm cells before it is discharged.That is one reason why the pullout method of birth control is not reliable.You may have answered this previously, but why don't you consider taking birth control pills? That way you won't have to worry about the lack or timing of the use of a condom during these unexpected bouts of unprotected sex.

Nice post

Welcome to A2A, Reeta. The new software that the board is using doesn't seem to give an indication of who you are replying to. it might be helpful to reference the name of that person.

Whose post were you referring to as "nice."

Again, welcome.

@readytogo you can use the @ symbol to reference someone, and they'll get a notification

@readytogo thanks for the information, it is very helpful. while birth control pills would help the situation, i know myself. i would forget to take them and end up in the same boat. besides, the guy im with (my fiance, now) is pretty against use of the pill for various reasons. plus now, though i finally have a job, i need to really cut back on spending. while i realise that taking the pill would be one helluva lot cheaper than potential offspring, id rather learn to be responsible than have to take yet another med.

@butters1206 said:
birth control should be both of your concerns.... Not just yours.