I'm new to this board as in today. But I'm kind of desperate in looking for advice. I've been dating my first boyfriend for almost a year now and we really love each other a lot. We've both decided to wait till marriage before having sex. But we don't completely skimp out on each other as in we love being intimate with each other. But, I've had a series of unfortunate things happen to me that have kind of distorted my... openness I guess? I've been sexually harassed a couple times. Once at work and another time at school. I've tried to get over it but it's really hard. And it's really taking a toll on our relationship because I get uncomfortable whenever my boyfriend tries to do anything but kiss.
I don't know what's wrong with me and why I can't get over it. I keep telling myself to suck it up and take one for the team because I think it's really unfair to him... I don't know what to do. Do you know how long it takes to get over things like this?
Struggling with Intimacy
Welcome to A2A, Scarlett.
I don't know how long it will take you to get over it - there's probably no one right answer because it's probably different for different people.
Does your boyfriend know why you are having trouble? If he doesn't you should tell him, so he knows it's not a problem with him.