I'm not actually new to this board. This board helped me out a lot maybe 8-10 years ago through all my puberty questions, lol.So, my current situation is that I have a girlfriend of over 1.5 years, and she is incredible. She and I are in love and get along so well, and I wouldn't trade her for anyone. We are sexually active, and I do find her sexy and attractive.I am a college grad about 1.5 years out, and I was pretty religious during college and always had a girlfriend, so I never experienced that "hook-up" culture that college is all about. One could say that it's something I always wanted to do but I just never did it. I've never gone to a club and just started dancing with some chick and suddenly start making out. That's actually as far as I would want anything to go since I think that's pretty exciting by itself. I desperately just want to go to the club without telling anyone at all, meet someone random and just dance and make out with someone. Afterwards I would just keep it a secret and hopefully scratch an itch that has been there since the beginning of college.Of course, I realize it would be technically cheating, albeit unemotionally. I also wouldn't like it if she did something like that, but it doesn't change the fact that I know that opportunity is available, and I want to do it.Has anyone been in the same situation? Did you go through with it? Is this something like an "itch" that's temporary and will go away after I've gone through with it? I always hope I will mature one day and get over the fact I've never had that opportunity to hook up with a stranger. It's just so enticing.
I want to hook up although I have a girlfriend
Welcome back, ssboog!
Hmm, sometimes scratching an itch makes it itch more. It makes it easier to scratch again, too.
Is it worth the worry that someone who knows you will see you with the girl, and the news will get back to your girlfriend? The chance of that happening is actually quite substantial, I think.
If you've got the itch and you honestly think you could cope with the guilt, and not feel awful and like you've betrayed her trust, you're better at it than me! I did similar, which turned worse at the end of my last relationship and the guilt ate away at me until I couldn't stand to kiss or be near my then-boyfriend. We'd been together for 4 years. It is a hard guilt to carry if you do go ahead x
I think you need not to do that .Just treat her as a good friend and make her happy which a the base of any relation .How every you know very well what you want to do in this situation .