I really like this girl (were both 17, and been friends for a while), and one night when we were both out, we went to grab some food. We got to talking and she told me she really liked me (she said this first). I then told her I really liked her back and we kissed.
Then we started texting quite a bit for a while, and i guess you could say we had a thing for a bit, we hooked up again a few days later, and we were flirting and stuff. Then she suddenly stopped showing interest for some reason (I'll get to why I think this happened later)
Then she sorta had this thing with another guy for a while, but we were at a party and she told me to come over to talk, so I did. She asked me if I still liked her and I said that I really do, and she told me that she still liked me a lot but thought I stopped liking her. We kissed again that night.
The next night I went over to hers and we were cuddling and kissing a lot, and watching movies. We ended up both falling asleep because we were so tired, and waking up the next morning. I went over to hers again a few days later and we started talking about what we were. I asked if she wanted to be my girlfriend and she said yes, so there that was. I was extremely happy, and she seemed to be too, asked me if she could kiss me in school and she told a bunch of her friends that same day and such.
The next day she sort of stopped showing interest again, which scared me because it had happened before. 2 days later she told me she had a lot going on with school and parents and stuff and can't commit to anything serious yet, but she really wants to do it right with me, but that the timing is bad. She says she needs time to sort her life out before she commits to anything, and that we should be friends until then. She says she still really likes me, and her best friend told me the same.
I just don't know what I should now. We still text a lot, but it feels different. How should I act when I'm around her? I feel weird just treating her like a friend but I don't know what she wants. It's also sort of embarrassing that everyone knew we were dating and then suddenly 2 days later we're not.
We were at a party again last night and I couldn't bring myself to talk to her much, since I still feel really sad about everything that's happened. She then texted me asking if I was angry, and she said that she really didn't want to stop talking to me because it would make everything harder than it already is. Then she left the party without even saying bye, but apologized for doing this by text later.
Sorry for the huuuuge post, guess I just needed to vent out a bit, but if anyone has any advice that would be greatly appreciated. I'm just confused about what she wants, and if I should wait. I wouldn't be able to bring myself to hook up with some other girl at this stage, and I don't really want to get over this girl, since we've planned to try again at a later stage. But what should I do in the meantime?
Thanks guys <3
What should I do about this, please help?
Welcome to A2A, Beringo.
I think you should just take it slowly. She seems to be afraid of committing herself just now, and there seems to be some reason for that that you don't know. Respect her confusion, and eventually she might tell you.
There is the possibility that she is always erratic, but I think it's much too early to draw that conclusion.
Yeah, I hope time will solve everything. I just feel weird when I'm with her now since I'm not sure how to act around her. Should I act like nothing's happened? It's just so confusing.
Cheers for the reply.
Just be yourself and let her come to you.