The last time I had sex (last night) I only lasted about a second or two after penetrating... Luckily it was my ex, and she's very understanding. But I wanted to know if there is anything I can do to help this. It's extremely embarrassing and demoralizing. I'm 25 years old, and though I don't really have any sex life (at all) it almost makes me even less interested in having one. I don't last very long when I masturbate by myself either... I'm too embarrassed to even try to get past kissing with women, because I'm scared I'll just embarrass myself further. Any suggestions?
Really bad premature ejaculation...
@Jules Some would suggest exercises (stop and go) during masturbation to help with PE. It sounds, however, that you have a severe case. You might want to consult a urologist. He can prescribe medication that will help.
@Jules I had the problem come up a few times too. Everyone man is different, but for me, I determined it was happening mostly because I wasn't having penetration sex on a regular basis and when I masturbated I would quickly jack off my morning erection before getting in the shower to go to work, sometimes I would bust a quick nut during the day, in the bathroom stall at work coz I was stressed, or I kept getting a hard on for no reason, and then I would do a quick jack off before going to bed. That was what was causing it. Every time I was alone and would jack off, I would pretty much rush through it to and cum. Little did I know that It would effect me when I had real sex. Two things work for me. If something was planned or I knew there was a good chance I was going to hook up with someone and have sex I would jacked off before going out, or before we met up. That took the feeling of my usual urgent need to feel good fast and cum, and I would make sure I took the sex slow. like every time I would begin to get that "Oh god this feels good"feeling, I would stop, pull out and take my time changing positions or would change positions and let them do the work. When you're masturbating you usually don't use all of the thrusting muscles and everything so when you're doing that it feels better and you tend to cum faster. Then secondly, find quality alone time to practice slow and edging masturbation. Get your self hard, try different positions standing up, kneeling, laying on your side. Whatever you can think of and slowly practice getting close to cumin but then stop let the feeling subside and try another position. always remembering to take it slow. The object is to see how long you can masturbate with it feeling good WITHOUT coming. I think my longest was 5 hours before coming and let me tell you when I finely did cum, I came so hard and so much that I actually got a cramp in that kegel muscle from cuming so much. Give it a try and work at it and you'll get better... I promise