How do you get out of a long term relationship where neither party is happy but both are pushing on into more and more committment?
7 years of trouble
Welcome to A2A, BasicMammal. That's a really good question, and I think this might happen quite often. There needs to be some very honest talking in a comfortable environment--not so easy if both parties have tended to shy away from difficult questions. "We need to have a serious and honest talk about where we are going" might be a start.