ok well ive been friends with a lad for a while (about 4yrs) then one day we started sleeping together, then our friendship changed, i was quite happy being friends but he wanted more, at first i was a bit uncertain then i came around to the idea, so we were seeing each other (on and off) for a few weeks now he's gone weird, he says he wants to b friends again although he cant keep away from me, if i spend time with other lads he gets jealous, if i see him on a night out he either completely ignores me or is all over me, i want to be with him but hes confusing me. what should i do? and why does he ignore me or just stand there watching me?
Whats he want?
It doesn't sound healthy.
I'm afraid that your 'friend' doesn't sound too stable. His interest in you SEEMS to be more about possessing you than it does about wanting to be your friend. My advice - get him out of your life. I know that may sound harsh - but I've 'been there - done that' far too many times NOT to know that it's a complete waste of emotional energy trying to get a handle on some other person's problems. [especially when that other person is being so aloof] Life is just too short for that. If you were married to him - sure - I'd say take the time. But you're not. So take advantage of that by moving on with YOUR life. [and leaving him behind]
That said.. I'm sorry you're in this situtation. It's not a comfortable place to be. [so to speak]
GREAT BIG HUG
<span style="color: red">"It takes FAR MORE COURAGE to be KIND than it does to be CRUEL"</span> - CanadaCraig
thanks for your advice, it just hurts so much as we were once really close friends, i said to him that if anything happened it would ruin our friendship, he said it wouldnt, now its come to a point where he leaves a place if i come in, i dont understand how a person can say such lovely things one day, then the next completley change. he tells me im so pretty and any lad would be lucky to be with me. if thats the case then why cant i be with the one person i want to be with- him!!