This boy is driving me insane

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Okay, so I met this guy Kyle only a week ago. At first I wasn't attracted to him at all. I just thought he was a little good looking. After knowing him for only 2 days, me, him and two of my other friends got screwed up on robitussin and I did a little too much. I was a mess the whole night, passing out and crying. Well Kyle was helping me the most the entire time even though he was screwed up too. He helped me throw up by sticking his fingers down my throat, took his shirt off so I could wipe myself off wiht it, walked into the girls bathroom to help me pee, etc. After that, I saw what a caring thoughtful person he is. So all this week we hung out, and I started to fall for him after the third day. Well he has a girlfriend, and even though he flirts with me nonstop and touches me, he doesn't want to persue anything with me because of his girlfriend. I ended up flipping out on him for teasing me and he admitted that he really likes me and he's scared because he loves his girlfriend. We both agree that we have a really strong connection beyond just friends. I think about him nonstop and it's tearing me apart. I don't completely know how he feels and I'm worried that our relationship will be screwed up now that his gf is back from vacation. Should I back off, or should I act the same way I did towards him before his girlfriend came back? I'm still thinking I could get him to fall for me even more than he already has but I don't want to risk fucking up the relationship. Nobody knows how I feel, and either way it will tear me apart. Suggestions???

If he loves his girlfriend you should probably back off.

God, I have so much more to say. Sometimes Kyle will hold me so tight in his arms for 5 minutes straight, and he'll give me certain looks like he wants me. The other night when I flipped out on him, he was so upset he cried a little, and when I hugged him goodbye, he told be he didn't want to let me go. At the same time, he's saying we should just be friends, but I can't do that! He's the best thing that ever happened to me, and I really don't give a fuck about his gf. Seriously, I feel like this kid is my soul mate. I don't want to push him too hard, but it's killing me. If I back off, I'm going to end up acting akward around him. Sigh. HELP!

ya dont do that kinda shit, its a waste of your life. but its your life and you make the decisions.

You've only known eachother for a week and he's the best thing that has happened to you? I think that you both might be in love with the IDEA of one another rather than eachother.

I didn't say I'm in love with him, I just said he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. What I mean is he's the only person who seems to understand me and the only guy who has treated me right.

you also said you thought he is soul mate, if that's not suggesting love, then...

No, not love but we definitely have a connection like no other.

i was n the same situaltion wit a girl she had a b/f and what not and yet we were................i cant disscribe it!omg it was hell i did the same thing u did, i yelled at her cuz we were so close and yet had a b/f and dident woant to leave, i mean so close in skool she'd give me notes n front of her b/f!his dumb ass dident no no beter then to leave me let his girl! but n e ways it dident work out!-lol- i played her ass! but i dont think she really liked me n e wayz-lol-but i still got dat pussy

Sorry to get off of subject for a moment... but that's messed up.

how? she liked me! i cant stop other ppl from having feelings for me! what can i say! imma p.i.m.p! :sunglasses:

I don't understand guys. Someone please tell me what runs through their minds if there is anything at all.

ok...im jus going to say this cuz im alot like this guy kyle...we're both fucking jerks...ok...let me tell u a few things...im really good with ppl i care about them, and have many female frends...so i kno very well how girls work, and how to make them feel good about themselves...im a good looking person, but not super super hot...so i always rely on my personality...like this guy kyle... he obviously does like you...and he dusnt care bout cheating...i do that too... so ill kno how this guy works...i have sed the exact words "i dont want to let u go" when i was hugging this chic that wasnt my girl...guess wut? 2 hours later i had sex with her...thats how guys r...(not saying ure jus gonna do that, i dont htink your a slut or ne thing) so honestly...DO NOT BUY WUT HES SELLIN...im not for real...and i kno that...the stuff i say isnt true and i kno it...ya i like the gurl...but i kno we're not in love, i know i can let her go...yea i tell her things like "whenever i listen to the song Vermillion Part 2 i think of you" (that song is good for that) but at the same time...u really care for this girl...but at the same time r willing to cheat on her...be careful wat u do with this guy...he plays mind games...and remember...hes really i jerk...i am 2

And ya'll wonder why girls have trust issues. I'm gonna tell him off tonight.

I'm starting to see a real pattern in M/F relationships.....

A lot of guys are emotionally distant, cheaters, players, and then the other guys suffer for it and think that most women are jealous, possessive freaks!!!!!!!!!!

Oh yeah, that brings us to the other part of the whole pattern, people who don't respect other peoples' relationships.....

I think going for a guy who has a GF is DEFINITELY not a nice way to act.

Why can't we all just play fair??? Sigh.... :wink:

I dunno, I'm too selfish to respect that relationship. He's obsessive over her and it makes me sick. And yes, I'm jealous and tired of not having guys I like like me back. I put so much of myself out there and get shit on in return. Maybe there are no good guys.

In reply to: A lot of guys are emotionally distant, cheaters, players, and then the other guys suffer for it and think that most women are jealous, possessive freaks!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!Ahhh, I haven't laughed so good in a long time. I guess that means I'm the other guy. But I only think the last girlfriend was a jealous, possessive freak. Where does this merry go round stop?

Massgravegurl...its me again..lol..well, im cheking to see wut was your opinion on my post...im glad u dint get pissd or ne thing cuz u shouldnt...but honestly about theyre being no good guys...really...there arent! im a guy, and all my boyz r players and not only that almost all guys i kno...when u talk to them...theyll jus tell you "yea im cheatin" it seems its no big deal ne more in the dating world to hear of a guy doing something like that...and so its obvious why gurls act the way they do...and i have nothing gainst gurls, who only want to love and be loved with no strings attached...sadly that cant happen...but trust me...your not alone...with me...i am ALWAYS on the market...i never have a gurlfriend...not cuz i cant get one or dont want one...but becuz i ALWAYS pick the wrong gurl...who only want a fuk and chuk.... ...so as soon as i fall for a gurl....i still keep myself on the market knowing that the gurl will break it off after the job is dun or w/e...and so i jus always have a girl waiting for me on the back burner (a little how u r with this guy...no offence...again)....my problem is the girls that always fall for me r the whores...i have been dating girls nonstop since i was 12...and for the last 4 years now...i ahve had around 130 relationships...and the longest one being 3 months...i kno i kno...its sad...and i really really want to settle down too...but of course...the only ones that want me r the whores...i askd one of them why and she sed cuz im black...and i sed wutthe hell does that have ne thing to do with ne thing...and she sed...well u kno...we've all heard the rumor.....that really isnt the best way to get a relationship going now is it...LOL

But here's the thing... I don't fall for too many guys, and I've never really had sex so it's not like I'm looking for a guy to fuck. I'm a really good person... I'm down for a guy through anything, even all the tough shit. I'm pretty, I'm intelligent, and I'm really caring. Although I try not to be clingy with this guy, it bothers me that he won't talk to me now because he's pushing me away. He doesn't want to screw things up with his gf. I've talked to a lot of people about this, including his best friend, and it seems to me like his relationship with his gf is purely a sexual attachment. So I know he doesn't want me, and I accept that, but I don't deserve the bad treatment... He says cocky shit to me all the time now and he'll talk about what him and his gf do in bed in front of me. But the thing is, I never hear him talk about what other non-sexual things they've done together or what they talk about. I personally feel like me and him would be better together, and I'm going on logic here, not just my own desires. Even though I think this, he won't allow himself to see it because he's afraid to break up with his gf of i guess 2 years????? His best friend even said Kyle is usually grumpy and doesn't want to be bothered by anyone except his gf, and the only time he was happy was when we used to hang out. I'm really confused... I already told him how he ditches his friends for his gf, and all he could say was WELL I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND. I'm not into games at all, and he's usually really honest with me. Now he's always short with me and has an attitude.

You've never really had sex??? According to a lot of your posts on here you have.