hey guys, this is my first post, hopefully of many, i think this site is an awesome idea and i have learned alot and now proud of my penis size, lol, but anyway, the reason for my post is this: me and my GF plan on giving our virginity to each other but, my GF has been raped, but she said she does not know if he got all the way in, she sed she didnt feel it in all the way and she doesnt remember any blood because she wasnt really payin attention to that, DUH lol, so my question is, would u still consider her a virgin if he didnt get all the way in?? and if he DID, because it was rape, would u consider her a virgin??! ive gotten alot of mixed comment from my frends, what do u guys think?
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Is She Still A Virgin
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The technical version of this would be that virginity is gone when there is penis to vaginal intercourse. So without her really remembering (and I can understand that) its really hard to say. I'd also ask why it matters, she's been through alot with that and your challenge is going to be to help her overcome that trauma no matter whether she was fully penetrated or not. Girls don't always bleed as that is usually the result of the hymen as it tears. She may have already done that through sports or something physical so that isn't always something you can gauge virginity by anyway. Hope this helps.
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yeah, she is afraid its gunna hurt cus she said it was hurt ALOT when that happened, but i told her im gonna be a lil more gentle than a rapist,lol, but she says that we should just do it fast and get it over with so we can have fun, idk if thats a good way or not tho
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How would it be more fun if you went fast, caused pain and possibly caused her to bleed? If you work your way up to it by turning her on and getting natural lubrication going, it'll be easier to ease your way and not be forceful. It can be pleasurable even for her first time by someone who takes the time and effort to make it as good as possible for her.
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that what i was thinking, i KNEW i was right, lol, thanx
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No problem.
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I wouldn't count rape as losing your virginity. I also don't think having sex when you're drop-dead-drunk would take away your virginity either. I think you have to give it up. You have to be fully in charge of the situation for you to lose it. That's my thinkin's many would idsagree though. If she still thinks she has it, then she does.
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Whether she is technically a virgin or not, you love each other and want to please each other and that's all that should matter.
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i agree with zetazin, i still see her as a virgin, even if she wasnt i would love her just as much
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tecnically she's not, but why would you care anyway of it was out of her control.
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My guess would be because they want to share a special moment when they give their virginities away to the person they care about. Sort of like a "trading" of virginity.
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Slow and easy, not fast and agressive and you'll both enjoy it more. Here's another tip bud....I suspect she is going to be super nervous because of the rape. It may take some time for her to loosen up a bit...if she's already concerned about hurting, then chances are she'll be tense and worried. Its up to you to be patient and work slowly. I'd say that the chances are pretty good that things won't work out just right the first time or two...just keep working together as a couple and things will be fine but don't get frustrated if you can't do it successfully or if you have erection problems. You'll both be pretty nervous! Hang in there!
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thanx but the problem is, we live in diff states, she is coming to visit for x-mas, maybe for a week, and i dont think we will be doin it during the first cuple of days, so time is limited, it will suck if it dont work out the first time and we have to leave off like that
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Sex is a bonus to every relationship, so if it doesn't happen oh well