Death of A Close Friend, how to deal w/ it

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I was recently informed that my friend died, i'm in shock but i never had a chance to say good bye or i love you. I was really close to this person. HELP!!

I really don't know what I can tell you. I am very sorry for your loss and although you couldn't say goodbye or i love you, I'm sure this person knew how you felt. Its never something easy to deal with and even the strongest people may break. Ur friend would want you to be happy and life your life so thats what you should do. I doubt they want you to mourn for them, and i'm sure they are happy where they are.

I don't know what your views as far as religion, etc. go, but I'll tell you how I handle it. It is my belief that after death a person goes to heaven, where it is a much better place than Earth. There is no pain and suffering there. Don't think of death as losing a person, but instead gaining an angel. You can still talk to your friend and him/her hear you. If in you're heart, you loved them, they will have already known.I hope this helps.

i lost my x a couple of years ago, we were still together at the time, he was killed by a drunk driver. i didnt deal with it that well, got depressed, just went out on the piss every night, wasn't the best way to deal with it. even now i haven't cried for him as it was all hush hush and so i couldn't let myself cry over him, so i got used to it, so it all still up in the air. i had a row with him before it happened so the last things i said to him were bad, and i regret that so much. now his best mate, also a close friend of mine has killed himself, from depression rooting from his death. this time i will grieve as it not good not to, in the end i planted a tree with his mate as a memorial, and i think that will help, i can finally say goodbye to them and will sped a lot of time thinking.you need to take time out to grieve for them, how they die, if you don't mind me asking? grieving is all different for everyone, ppl like me go out and ruin their own lives, and others will keep busy, it all depeds on who you are.i feel for you i really do as i know what you are going through. you can still talk to them, i do, all the time, it helps me to get through the days.why don't you join up and make it official,you can then PM me or whatever.hope you find the strength in yourself and remeber that there are others that have also had the loss, talk to them, they will be the same as youBecky xxx

Losing a close friend is not an easy thing. It can be devastating, i've been through it so i know what you're feeling. Like said above, i'm not sure what your beliefs are and everything but they are right there with you listening. You can talk to them whenever you want to. Let them know that you love them. That's what I do all the time, i lost someone very close to my heart about a month ago and everyday i talk to him. It helps a lot being able to just let everything out. Also, try not to think about it too much..I know that it's hard not to keep your mind off of it but if you get yourself doing things or being with friends it will take your mind off of it. It might be hard at first, but eventually you'll be fine.

If you want to PM me, i'm the one who posted this.