I've only just arrived to this site and looking at some of the titles of posts I'm concerned that I may have made an error in joining. I'm not as experienced as many here seem to be and I'm quite embarassed at the moment. Anyway, I'll finish this post and see what happens.My husband of 3 months has been asking me to take his member in my mouth. He says that it's normal and he gets upset when I refuse. IS IT NORMAL? He comes home from work late and hasn't washed beore retiring to bed and the one time I put my face near his member ..the smell was most unpleasant. Should I do as he asks or am I really as unworldly as he claims?
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Oral sex
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People here have varying levels of experience, so there's no need to feel shy. About oral sex, it's very common---both for males and females. The smell from a male could probably be alleviated by a simple shower. Just ask him to clean up before you try.
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Offer to wash it with lovely warm soapy water and then blow dry it, if you get my meaning!
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I appreciate your replies and I must admit that I'm still quite nervous about using this site. Anyway, thank goodness for the anonimity! As for asking my husband to wash before retiring to bed, I have done that on a couple of occasions but he usually gets home at about 2.00 am having worked 12 hours and he claims that he is too tired (or lazy ) to get into the shower. Unfortunately he still seems to have the energy for intercourse and to be honest I'm beginning to think this marriage was a grave error on my part. It was an arranged marriage and it seems I have found myself in a situation I cannot get out of. Thanks for your replies..I didn't realise that oral sex was so common. :blush:
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You're in an "arranged marriage", and you didn't even know about oral sex. You are a seriously sheltered woman, and your life is going to be horrible. You might eventually think it's good, but it won't be
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Being that she was already nervous to begin with, you've probably scared her away from any useful advice that we might have offered. I'm not sure what your point was.
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I don't need a point
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In reply to:
You might eventually think it's good, but it won't be
Really, seven, that wasn't very logical. To tell someone you don't know, that you know better than they do about the future of their marriage, is just to expose yourself to well-deserved ridicule. And it was impolite. Drop the attempt at the worldly-wise cynic, you can't pull it off. Be yourself for once!
When AIDS first appeared in the west, the British government set up a committee to work out what it should do, chaired by the then Minister for Health. At one meeting, oral sex was mentioned. "What's oral sex?", asked the minister. He was told, said "Good Lord!", and was very quiet for the rest of the meeting. So it's possible to become a (married) government minister without being aware of oral sex.
I'm sorry, Shoareel, that you are in such a difficult situation. It's not uncommon to have second thoughts early in a marriage, though. It's very difficult at the best of times to have to get used to living with someone with different habits from what you are used to; it must be particularly difficult when you hardly know your spouse. I found even learning to sleep in a double bed was hard.
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In reply to: When AIDS first appeared in the west, the British government set up a committee to work out what it should do, chaired by the then Minister for Health. At one meeting, oral sex was mentioned. "What's oral sex?", asked the minister. He was told, said "Good Lord!", and was very quiet for the rest of the meeting. So it's possible to become a (married) government minister without being aware of oral sex. And that guy has never had sex other than in the missionary position, and he's never lasted more than 3 minutes...but if you could hypnotize him (you could never just ask him) and ask if his sex life was good, he'd say yes
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Sometimes being naive is a good thing.
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Yes, life is not measured by multiplicity of experiences.
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Hi Shoareel,Yes, oral sex is that common, for both genders.I can understand how he may smell after work.How about taking him in for a common shower (the two of you) BEFORE he goes to work? And then give him what he wants?I guarantee, he'll have a much better day at work!My wife has surprised me this way on several occasions, and when I came home that night we had magical lovemaking!