I'm new, and i chanced upon this site while looking up advice on taking a guy's virginity. Ok...i will soon be in the situation to well, be doing just that, lol. I'm 24, he's 20 and we have been talking for awhile about it. I've known him for 5 months, and he's really sweet and we get along great(sparks flying as well). But, i'm just not in a position to want to get into a relationship(to much other stuff in my life), and i know he doesn't "love" me. But he says he wants to lose his virginity to me cause we have great chemistry and he knows i would be great in bed, lol. He has been with other girls..and has done everything but actual penetration...so i think he knows what is supposed to happen. Ok, i have fantasied about being a guys first, and now i have the chance. Do i do it....will he regret it later? (i don't think either of us will!) And, if i do take it, what are some tips on doing it right, and with patience etc? Ok, well that is my "dumb" question for the day, lol.
How to be a guy's first?
LOL Ghost! I agree, she does rule .
Now for your question. The only tip I can really give you is talk him through it. I lost mine to a "pro" haha, and she basically walked me through everything. I mean I knew what to do (undress, slip it in, work it, etc), but she'd tell me when I was doing something right, when to speed up, when to slow down, etc etc.
I knew a girl that had sex with 7 guys and 6 of them were virgins. I always picked at her about knowin how to "break the young uns in." She said none of them regretted her bein their first, so I'm sure you have nothin to worry about.
On a closing note, tell him he was good. It will give him confidence. He'll like it
I rule...awww thanks you guys!!!!!!! ((((((Hugs)))))
Ok, how do i go about directing him. I mean, i'm not afriad to ask for what i want in bed with a man, not at all. But directing a virgin is actually making me nervous (what if i say something and not meaning to, ruin his whole first time experience?) It's just got me freaked a tiny bit, cause well....i lost it to a already "non-virgin", and have never been with a guy who hasn't had sex! Maybe i'm putting to much of a "girly" spin on it? (ie...i wish mine had been taken by a.) Different guy. b.) more romatically then 10 mins in a tent in my then bf's backyard, lol!) I just don't want him to not like it, and well....i do want to be remembered as a great first, and also the woman that taught him to please every other woman he may know in his life! Ok, i'm just giving this to much thought, i just need to take a deep breath and jump persay, lol! Any more advice would definitly be welcome....and when it happens i will be sure to let ya'll know!(Could be as soon as this Friday if our work/life schedule's are nsync!!!!!)
i would definitely do it.
i would not give him much direction or advice the first time, other than guiding him in. let him do whatever he wants that first time. then hopefully you can do it a few more times in some period of time. that is when you can give direction/suggestions. i just think that giving instructions the first time would be totally intimidating to a guy!
i really hope you can have those subsequent sessions and teach him how to please a woman. you'll be doing his future lovers a great favor!
im gonna ask something no one seems to have bothered to ask,
does he have feelings for you?
In reply to:
i know he doesn't "love" me
female friend of mine did the exact same thing as you
"he doesnt love me, he is ok with us just having sex and it means nothing more, he knows i dont want a relationship"
after having sex for a month or so, he confesses he loves her
not so long after, the guy has told this chick that she's extremly selfish and to bugger off and not to see her again
whether he was right or not to say this, -is not the point.
just something i think you should be aware of
I'm positive he does not have "romantic" feeling for me! We are friends, we hang out and laugh and have a good time, but it's a friendship and that is it. I have thought about what might happen if after all is said and done, he does fall in love with me. We have talked about it. He knows i care for him as a friend, and he feels the same for me, but we have agreed (mutually) if any furthur feelings develope, then to stop having sex! He already knows there are reasons i can not and will not give myself 100% to someone (which include the raising of 2 kids!) He is ok with that, and has alot of things he is focusing on in his life that don't allow for a relationship. Granted, i know having sex and being friends is a form of a "relationship!" I'm not emotionally cold or selfish or anything, and neither is he. Should he ever confess to loving me....i know i will tell him things have to be over. Not because i may not love him, but because i refuse to hold him back when my life is already too full. Suffice to say, i don't think that true love will come of me taking his virginity.
if he's saying that he knows your just friends, but wants to lose his virginity to you... he's going to fall in love the instant he feels your warm flesh on his dick. This sort of thing happens all the time. Dude loses his virginity and falls in love with the chick. I say be careful what you do, regardless what he says, he most likely HAS feeling for you, he just doesn't want to lose you, so he is saying that he doesn't. He knows that the instant "I love you" comes out of his mouth, your going to stop things, so he holds back. Just be careful, thats all im saying, people can get crushed easily, and if you nail this dude, then bail on him, something worse than just not being friends could come of it.
ask^ghost, you so sweet mmmmwaahhhhh
Well...ok, I will say to be on the safe side; there is a possibility of him falling in love with me. But, isn't there just as much of a possibility that I could do a complete 180 and fall in love with HIM? I'm almost positive that it will NOT happen, but being that sex can sometimes get emotional, my feelings might be in it as much as his. Now to say he will fall in love with me (the minute my warm flesh is around his dick)...well i think that might be going a bit far. In that case he would be confusing sex with love. Which i'm not saying we all haven't done at times, but i just don't see it happening with him! Sure he may have feelings for me now, but i also have feelings for him, but nothing that would translate into "love" persay! We have covered all these bases, after all 5 months is a long time to discuss something, lol, (though i should say 3, since serious talk didn't start till after our first makeout session!) I think i'm going to go ahead and do this....i'm really looking forward to being someone's first. I don't think anything worse then friendship can come out of this, and friendship is far from bad. I firmly believe that a man and a woman can have a physical relationship without serious feelings developing....i've had a few fuck buddies in the past. Nothing ever came of them except staying friends....it's the men that i have truely loved and that have professed to love me, that have broken my heart! And i know, your probley thinking....aaahhhhha, there is her problem right there! But you would be wrong, i'm not shutting out love cause it has hurt me, i'm all for love when the right man comes along. But....he is not the right man, and i think he knows this.