Im small!

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info: I'll be 14 yrs old in a month. i'm 5'0..almost 5'1". i'm a girl. im flat!all my friends developed normal and everyone else started to develop in grade 6. I'm in grade 9 and I swear I'm the only flat girl i still have to wear a changing bra you know how embarrasing that is to be in highschool and change for gym with girls who are b and cs? my mom is like a d and my sister is 17 and shes like 38 b and I'm not even AA. anyways I went to la senza today and I was too embarrased to get a bra so my friend got me the smallest size there (32 a) cause I was too embarrased and it was too big for me! i'm so insecure i havent ever had a boyfriend and one of my friends went all the way! is it normal to be like 32aa when you're almost 14? its not hereditary for my cause my sister was a b when she was my age! last year I was the only flat girl in my grade. its just so embarrasing please someone help me i don't know what to do i don't think ill ever have a boyfriend cause all the guys at my school are jerks and they wont even talk to me. its especially embarrasing when my friends make me go to la senza with them. HELP ME!

"I still have to wear a changing bra you know how embarrasing that is" haha I meant training bra

Hi starsh1ne999, welcome to AfraidToAsk. It's difficult to be different from other people. It seems from your family that you are not going to stay flat, but you're just a bit later than most. But that is no reason at all why you shouldn't be able to have a boyfriend. Only a very shallow guy would select a girlfriend on breast size - and you wouldn't want him anyway.Don't feel you have to go all the way, or any part of the way, because your friends are. Your friend may not be telling the truth, but even if she is, the decision what you do about sex should be made by you, not your friends.You think no-one will ever like you. I don't see why that should be. However, you make it harder for people to like you if you are hard on yourself. Be kinder to and more accepting of yourself and don't be afraid to be you, someone who is an individual. You also make it harder to be liked if you categorise all the guys at school as jerks. Some of them probably are - but all of them? I think you haven't got to know them very well. As well as being kinder to and more accepting of yourself, be kinder to and more accepting of other people too. They also are individuals.

Everyone develops at different rates and different times.

ahww ineligible is lovely :grin:

amz, what does that mean?

I'm a 36A and I'm almost 16. You're not alone. Ya, judging by your familys sizes you'll grown soon. Even if you don't, who cares? Like Ineligible said, don't be so hard on yourself. Chances are you're the only one who notices anyway. You're still very young, don't let it stop you from enjoying yourself!

hey all women do not have to worry about breast size. Like Ineligible said, only a shallow guy would chose upon that. So just relax and jsut make sure you have good personality.

"It seems from your family that you are not going to stay flat, but you're just a bit later than most. But that is no reason at all why you shouldn't be able to have a boyfriend. Only a very shallow guy would select a girlfriend on breast size - and you wouldn't want him anyway." thats the bit I was talking about, just made me smile :grin:

I'm gonna let the gals in on a little secret, but you have to promise not to tell anyone I told you ok? ok! Self-confidence is THE most sexiest thing a man desires. Even if you have small breasts and your confident and outgoing and just willing to not even pay attention to your chest then that will make you 1000 times more attractive then if you just did have breasts.My girlfriend isn't exactly huge but she's so free spirited and fun to be with when she's around me that in my eyes she is simply the most beautiful creature God put in front of me... almost makes a heart ache at the thought! Just letting go and living life to it's fullest... thats sexy... not breast size... or ass size... or being skinny... it's about being you and loving life!

exactly. If a girl can be self confident it makes things all the better.

well how do I figure out what size I am? i mean, i cant exactly ask my friends/ family. i looked at the size and shape page but i still really am not sure. when will i need an "a" sized bra?

I was 32 aa when i was 15! I'm 19 and 34 B now and still not happy

ha! I wish!

can anyone answer my question, "how do I figure out what size I am? i mean, i cant exactly ask my friends/ family. i looked at the size and shape page but i still really am not sure. when will i need an "a" sized bra?" anyone? I know everyone said to just be self confident and try not to worrry about it-im young. its not as easy as it sounds. everyone calls me a nerd at my school. even my friends. some people call me a midget because im short. ive always been quiet and uncomfortable with my body. i cant exactly just all of a sudden be happy with what ive got. and i cant be confident because ive always been shy. and sure, some of the guys at my school arent jerks but they wont really talk to me. and even though i am only 13, im in highschool and about 97% of the girls in my grade are atleast an a cup. the guys on here say how size doesnt matter and only immature guys who think about size arent worth it anyways. but all i ever hear is about how size matters. i want to know how i can make my breasts grow faster and please stop saying to be more confident because I cant!

trust me i started deveopling at 9 yrsi thought i was going to be big boobed then they stayed the same till i was 13 yrs so i started thinking that they were going 2 b small i was mayb be a little upset i was like a 38 a then in the 9th grade they grew like whaaapannnggg lol ima 36 c now so i think u shoudlnt worry about it they'll grow plus ur mother nd sister have prett y nig boobz so yea

Once again Ineligible proves beat me to the same thing, wish my dad was like you sometimes lol. (Dad's superficial and a womanizer at times, thanks to my mom I didn't become like him.)Girls don't usually have sex at the age of 14 and if it is that is too young and a really bad time to do it, you are just beginning to get those feels and it can develope bad relationships with another person as they mature, girls that are 14 ish are usually still like children with developing bodies so relationships can be hard to form successfully.Sex is a big issue, don't think breast size will determine if you will ever have sex, look at Asian countries, they have all A-B tops usually, most are flat for a long period of time and you think guys aren't attracted to them? Personality and body language really hook guys, a warm and friendly personality and nice attitude really gets to me. The way a girl moves when you are around her also tells if she is shy or happy or how she is feeling.I personally fell in love with my gf before I even seen her face and when I did I was even more in love. She is A at the age of 18 now and knows I love every part about her, breast-size had absolutely 0 chance of making me feel any different about her. Don't worry you will develope later on for sure and if you don't get to be as large as your sister or mother who cares, plenty of guys love the small breasts to, but it really isn't the main thing for which most guys get interested in a girl. As Ineligible said you don't want guys that would choose by that.Guys choosing there girlfriends by breast-size is a sterotype, same with legs and butt, they are only add-ons which guys focus on, girls are very sensitive about their bodies and guys just give more attention that way rather then sounding corny and saying, "Wow your great, your personality what makes me like you." Its easier and sounds less of a line then, "Nice ". Guys love girls for who they are, not there bra size.

Don't let it bother you, there are guys out there who are looking for someone just like you. The sexiest girl I've known was small breasted and I let her get away. I may have another chance soon and I am going to go for it!

May be a silly question, and I'm only a man.The bra was designed to support the breasts and stop damage, stop stretching etc as there is no muscle there. If you are relatively small with little to support, why do you NEED a bra?Enjoy the freedom. I'm sure you still look great

i like girls that are smaller rather than larger and i like brunets and not blonds there are theses good guys out there and if they look at your chest and jusge you why won't them anyways i like a girl dtrictly on personality and its to bad the rest of the ppl in this world ain't like that i think the world would be great like that