Hey, I would like some help. I'm not very social, but I'm not completely anti-social either. I just want help to be more social. And please do not just tell me to talk more or anything simple like that, as I need explanations and such. Thanks a lot
JK! I would research some good topics to bring up with certain people. If you find out that "Susan" likes to draw, ask her if she's ever painted on canvass before. If you find out that "Fred" likes football, ask him what his favorite team is and why. Always use open eneded questions...not the type you can answer with a yes or a no.
This will take some effort from your part since you will have to take some iniciative.
One thing I like doing is getting people who don't talk that much to open up. The only problem is they usually open up to me and no one else. The key is to ask a lot of questions. If the subject comes across something you're interested in, then start talking about yourself a little bit. Not too much though, that can be annoying if you talk about yourself too much. It usually takes a week or so to get the really shy ones to start talking to me comfortably.