Hi all, I'm 19 and have problems with what I can only really describe as an overly sensitive penis. During sex I have premature ejaculation and nothing seems to help this.However, what is worse is that I seem to become erect during the mildest of physical contact. Its strange because I could be dancing with a girl and there'd be nothing, however, if I am doing something as small as holding a girls hand but feeling a real attraction, I can be erect, on and off, for hours and hours.Tonight I was lying on the couch with my new girlfriend, holding her, and I was constantly getting erect, soft and then erect again. Now i was able to move into a position whereby she couldn't tell but still....There is loads of info on problems maintaining an erection, but nothing on the opposite. I have been circumsized and have had sex several times with a previous partner. Now I just need to know how normal this is and, ultimately, how to prevent this.Who should I contact and do you have any helpful resources? Is this a condition and can doctors help? I have had the same gp most of my life and do not want to see him about this, is there a clinic I can go to? Any help would be excellent.
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Erection sensitivity during remot physical contact
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At nineteen, your hormones are still raging. Why would you not have an erection when you are with this girl? And, given that you've had sex before, why would you worry about it? This is all pretty normal. If it is a concern to you that she might notice the erection, just be careful how (where) she is in relation to you. (For example, don't let her sit on your lap.) Or try to wear baggy clothes to hide it. You know, if she happens to notice it, she just might be flattered. RELAX!
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I respect what you are saying and appreciate it, it's just that it really does not seem normal for anybody to be this sensitive. Now I can perhaps understand being erect when lying with your girlfriend, and obviously when making other contact as well, but to be so for hours on and off from something as small as holding hands?Add to this that when having sex, it can last for as little as 90 seconds. Is there anyway the two are linked?Again, replies are appreciated.
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I think the two might be linked, both arising from being very easily aroused. Also, if you're aroused a lot beforehand, it is common to then get off more quickly.Getting erections too easily is something that will be cured by time - it will get slowly better with the years. For faster effects, yes there are drugs that can make you less aroused - many of the anti-depressants will do it, and well as small doses of the "chemical castration" drugs. The question, is, I suppose, whether you feel the way you are is so distressing as to warrant it. Most people would advise you to live with it, but I think that's a decision for you to make.For the over-quick ejaculation, you could try the "stop-and-go" technique. There are also desensitising condoms available that might help.
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Ineligible has raised a good point. Are you this easily aroused by all girls? Or just this one? Was your previous girlfriend able to arouse you just by holding hands? If not, what's different about this one?
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Thanks a lot for the replies...
It's hard to explain, I had my first relationship with my last girlfriend and that lasted for ten months. On our first date we walked for a few hours and the entire time I was erect pretty much continuously - my testicles hurt like hell when I got home and it was really worrying.
Over time, and from holding hands on a regular basis, this went and I could hold her hand without anything happening.
However, during sex nothing would help, including the stop start method and when going to sleep lying next to her I would always become erect throughout the ten months we were together.
Now with my new girlfriend, when holding hands in public places, without the intimacy, it doesn't tend to happen too often, however, when at home sitting close to her, it will. It certainly isn't as bad as before but when i do become erect, for example when lying next to her or holding hands, it feels different - just as it does during sex - ultra sensitive It doesn't feel like this when masturbating.
I remember an occasion when I was kissing a girl at a new years party, and while very drunk, nothing at all happened, however when just thinking about times when I've been close with my new girlfriend, I become erect and the same unusual feeling occurs. I do not really have the experience to say whether this happens with everybody but it certainly has with my two girlfriends... I have to say though, that I never thought I'd ever be lucky enough to go out with this girl as I can honestly say I have never liked anybody as much as this girl and I can say with sinserity that she is the most beautiful girl I have ever known...
EDIT: i was prescribed prozac for depression a year or two ago, I am considering taking them now and seeing what happens. If you do not think this is a good idea, then please advise otherwise.
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Prozac is one of the anti-depressants that reduces libido, so yes, it will probably work. Whether it's a good idea, I don't know. I'd be reluctant to do it myself.
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yeah i have the same thing even in the 5th grade when i held my gfs hand i was hard all though the movie (it made X-men like 50 times better ), but hear is the weird thig with me it takes me like 2 minutes minumum to come and like 5 minutes tops and then other times its like 40 seconds to top it all off im multi-orgasmic so like...im weird haha