Ugh...

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Well, my girlfriend and her family Europe, so now I am back to page 1... There is another girl I've always liked, and been friends with, but Im getting mixed messages... She always flirts with me IRL and looks at me all the time, and I just tried to tell her how I feel. Here is a convo on AIM, this is the day after she told me she loves me, I dont know if she meant it.:some small talk before thisMe: hey her name, what do you consider us? like really good friends?Her: yeah!Me: lolMe: if youre ever ready or want to be anything else, Ill be there for you, I dont know how I could love anyone else the way I love you... I just dont want anything to happen to you, and I want you to always be happy, if that means you being with someone else, I will wish you the best, but I dont think my feelings will ever fade... :-)Her: aww thanks my name, but i know u will like some1 else eventually and dont worry, i know i can always trust u to be there if i need... there are about 3 guy friends (including u) that i consider really close friendsMe: yeah but seriously, I dont really want to find anyone else... Me: youre simply, the best, in every way :-)Her: thank youMe: do you know what I mean?Me: theres just so many ways that we are good for eachother, youre really smart, funny, probably the nicest person I know, and beautiful, I think we could work well togetherMe: being more than friends can be good or bad, but if its good, its really good, and if its bad, we can still be friends, but people always say, the longest and strongest relationships are people that were friends firstMe: but really, dont let any of this change how you feel about me, Ill be there for you always, no matter what the cost :-)Her: i am totally speechless lol Me: lol why?Her: it takes a lot for someone to leave a Her last name speechless Me: I hope thats a good thing?Me: I dont know, Im just always thinking about you, and I just had to tell you somehowMe: youre the best :-)Her: i really enjoy our friendship but i think our feelings are at different levels and as nice as it to hear your feelings it is at apoint where i cant sAy that i feeel exactly the same way Me: people change over time, I know Ive changedMe: I wont push you into anything, its all your choiceHer: ok i understandHer: my mom just called me for dinnferHer: dinner*Me: ok her name, see you later :-) you know I love you? lolMe: if you need to talk to someone, I dont mind, you can tell the whole world if you wantHer: k thanks, ttyl :-)

oh boy.. thats kinda harsh to hear eh...You told her you loved her though?

Yeah, but she told me first... After the first class in school, she told me she has always really liked me, and that Im her best guy friend, and she loves me... Then all day I thought of what I should say... and thats when this happened.

I have a feeling she meant she loves you as a friend. I get that all the time. I uased to think it was a "kiss of death" sorta thing, but it's just the way girls are.They show respect in different ways.The guy way might be something along the lines of "I don't think you're a complete dick".It's all about interpretation, and I think you've interpreted her wrong.The problem is, now you've put your heart on your sleeve, you may have scared her away (explaining the sudden departure from the AIM convo).I could be wrong, but if you find her avoiding you, then that's what it is.And a final tip. If she says no, don't carry on telling her you love her. It just rubs it in and makes it worse.

Well, Ill see tomorrow... She had surgery yesterday, so tomorrow Ill be as nice as possible lol. I havent seen her for 2 days because of that. We still talk on aim for a really long time, and she always brings up "do you like me?". I really dont want to lose her, she is the best girl Ive ever met... were common in so many ways that its unbelieveable.

What am I supposed to ask her? "Hey, can I post our conversation on the internet to ask a bunch of people I dont know what I should do?" Im sorry but I have no where else to turn. Mod's if you want, edit out the conversation and Ill give a basic meaning of what she said...

Her name wasn't disclosed so it's not like anyone would ever know who she was (not that they would anyways), but I guess it comes down to personal opinion. If I were in the girl's sitution (I'm a guy, don't get me wrong), and a girl posted that I wouldn't mind. I doubt I'd ever know, but the fact that they were trying to get help with their relationship with me would seem - to me at least - to show that they care.

Sorry if that last sentence was a jumble of words, I'm not sure how to rephrase it.

Ok, so she invited me over her house friday (coming up), gave me 2 of her phone numbers, and talks to me every chance she gets in school. And she says Im her best guy friend (she doesnt have a boyfriend)?What do you think I should do on Friday with her? I mean I really want her to be more than a friend, but I dont want to scare her off...

well do you know if she's interested in anyone or if anyone is interested in her? if the answers are no, i would hang out with her, but don't put the moves on her until she shows some body language that she wants you to. i would try to take things slow and discuss what each of you wants out of a relationship if you two were to have one. she might be confused and wants to give you a chance, but she has to hang out with you to test the waters first. two numbers are good tho! i must say. so don't be pushy b/c you'll definitely scare her away. trying too hard can be a definite turn off.

Thanks for the advice! I have asked her if she secretly liked someone, and she blushed and said no... Hmm? She said she has only been out with a guy on a friendly group date back in 4th grade, and I didnt even ask...Ill surely try my best on Friday. Oh yeah, and she is Jewish so I am planning to give her something on the first day of channukah... if you want to know specifics, just ask.

Hey Yer well that's good then, and the fact she keeps saying that your her best (boy) mate is obviously good, just remember not to try too hard and be yourself all the time (not that you aren't!) [personal experience lol]Good Luck on Friday! Let us know how it goes or pm meJaXx

Doh! She told me today that she has to work (babysit), so we can't hang out... another time I hope!