Hey everyone, I have been reading for quite a while now and I have decided its time I've posted something. After reading many of the posts in this section, I realize that I am not alone, what most of you said I can relate to. I am convinced that I am depressed but I don't know how to get any help. I am really not comfortable talking to my parents and also they fight about everything and I don't want to make it worse. My depression started freshman year when I transfered from public school to private school. It was very hard for me because I went from having tons of friends to virtually no friends. The people at my school are stuck up bitches and although now I do have a few friends I spend so much time with them at school that we are starting to get on each others nerves more than we get along. I had to quit dancing (which I had done for 10 years of my life) when I switched schools and that made everything even worse. I got through freshman year because I was really excited to go to my summer camp, it became my motivation. It is the only place I feel that people accept me for who I am, I made alot of amazing friends but they all live really far away. However, this year my mom won't let me go back to camp. Now I have no motivation to get through each day. I told myself that I would never get upset over guys; however, this summer at camp I met a guy and I really think I fell in love with him. (he feels the same way) The downside though is that he lives on the other side of the world and I may never get to see him again. I called him on the phone once and talked for 20min and the call cost $70! My parents won't let me go visit him because they are over protective and don't trust me and his parents feel the same way about him visiting me. This just adds to craziness of my life. Another thing is that my parents fight ALL the time, and I can't stand it. Now this year, sophmore year, I am dancing again but it is not helping as much as I thought it would. I'm not doing as well in school as I used to, and yet I try just as hard. I have one friend from camp who I have told most of this to and he understands but has no solution. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can deal with this without getting my parents involved? I greatly appriciate any advise or ideas.
xoxoxox
~MJ
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Dealing with Depression
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It may really help to take up some kind of hobby. Something that will take your mind off things and put all your interest in finishing that project. I know you're avoiding talking to your parents about things, but one step would be to talk to them both. If you can't do it by speaking to them, write a letter that you can give to both of them to explain how their fighting all the time makes you feel. Talking to someone is the first step and I think by talking to us and you're friend at camp is the way to start. Also, try to keep positive and tell yourself things will be ok. When you start to get frustrated or angry take a deep breath and don't do anything until you're calmed down. I hope this helps.
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Thanks those are all good suggestions. Dancing usually takes my mind off things, as does going out with my friends; but the second I get home its all back to the way it was. I recently have been trying to think positively but that didn't last very long. The thing that scares me is that this has been going on for about two years and nothing has improved it has only gotten worse. Should I be really concerned with that? My sister's Bat Mitzvah is in less than two weeks so I am waiting until that is over to talk to my parents becuse they are stressed enough. Does anyone have any other suggestions for the mean time, or any other directions I should go to get help?thanks,~MJ